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The Leap Of Your Life: Decoding The Pillars with Tommy Baker

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The Leap Of Your Life: Decoding The Pillars with Tommy Baker

There’s a leap in your life you must take, but you’ve been waiting. Every day you put it off —fear starts to win a little more and talk you out of it. Until one day, it’s gone. There is no more enthusiasm. There is no more spark. Another desire, another dream has faded.

The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is my brand new book about making bold decisions and never looking back.

Because launch day is right around the corner, I wanted to create a special training video to help answer a few questions and deep dive into the material. These questions include:

Who is this book for and why should I care?

What makes the Leap of Your Life different?

What can I expect inside the pages of the Leap?

And here’s the deal: I get it. No one needs another book. But this book was created after an obsessive 7.5 year quest to discover the truth about how to create transformation in your life —and stop waiting.

The Leap Of Your Life: Training Video

During this 20 minute training video —I go deep into who this book is for, why it matters and distill some of the key principles and tactics to bring your leap to life.

This book was written for one reason and one reason only: to wake you up. 

Because we all need reminders, or else we slide into a life of mediocrity, stagnation and ultimately —a life we can’t wait to escape from, instead of a life we can’t wait to wake up for.

Make no mistake: you deserve to live a bold, inspiring and thriving life full of purpose, meaning, and adventure.

The Leap Of Your Life: Order Your Copy Now!

The Leap Of Your Life is officially out and available at all major retailers —and now is the best time to order so you can start living the life you truly want…not the one others want for you.

You can order the book at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indie Bound or Books-A-Million now.

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Are You Surviving, Comfortable or Thriving?

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Are You Surviving, Comfortable or Thriving?

After being in the trenches coaching thousands of people to get clear, focused and build momentum in their lives —I’ve noticed there are three possible stages you can find yourself in at any given moment: survival, comfort or thriving.

And in each of these stages, you’re going to have completely different mindsets, obstacles and ways of operating in your life. The problem, however —is each stage requires a specific prescription to breakthrough (or, if you’re thriving…to not lose your momentum.)

In this post, you’re going to discover which stage you’re currently in, what the key markers of being in it are from an internal and external view —and what you can do to make sure you break free.

Because you’re not meant to simply survive life, or be in a stage of comfort. You’re here to thrive and make sure you get to the end of this experience with a smile on your face —knowing you truly lived. Because when you’re thriving, life opens up for you and will provide a level of meaning and fulfillment that can’t be matched.

And you and I are designed to be in that place.

The Survival Stage

The markers of being in a survival stage are glaring: endless alarms, putting out fires and always in a frantic state of overwhelm. The feeling of burnout has become your new normal — and there never seems to be enough.

There’s never enough time, certainly not enough money or resources —and some of the dialogue happening here is short-sighted: “trying” to make it through the day, or at best, the current week so you can finally take a moment to exhale.

In survival, finances come and go and never last: there is always a drama designed to pull you back down. For example, you may have had tons of urgency to bring in money to make your monthly bills, when somehow you come across a larger sum of cash you didn’t previously have.

In survival, you’re attracting chaos: this is when an unexpected medical bill comes, or something seemingly “out of nowhere.”

Survival is exhausting, debilitating and makes you question yourself all the time. It leaves you scattered, some times broken and wondering if you’re ever going to make it out.

In survival, thinking about a big vision or setting targets and goals can actually do more harm than good: because you’re not in a state of being able to truly expand your mind. In one of my books, I call this the Homeless Paradox: you and I can pull up to our nearest street corner and tell someone in need the best wisdom on the planet —and it won’t strike a chord. Why? Because they’re thinking about their next sandwich and how they’re going to make it through the evening storm.

But it’s not all bad news: survival creates tremendous urgency (which comfort doesn’t) and can be a catalyst to get out once and for all.

survival, comfort, thrivingHow to Get Out of Survival

So, how do you get out? In survival mode, you must take a moment to examine the tremendous cost and pain being in this stage is causing you. Because often, it has become people’s identitythey don’t even feel comfortable in any other place, even if they say they want to get out of survival.

Step 1: Examine the cost of your life of being in survival: the exhaustion, stress and never feeling like it’s enough.

Step 2: Use Reverse Visualization (a technique I shared in the Leap Of Your Life) to amplify the future pain of regret to do something now.

Step 3: Set extremely short term goals (30 days or less) —and make incremental wins. Make them so small, yet important. This is how you’re going to build momentum.

Step 4: Train yourself away from scarcity thinking at least once a day. Practice habits of abundance, create a short morning routine —any space and time for “you” is helping you shift from scarcity to abundance. Stop saying you don’t have enough and remember: your circumstances are not who you are.

Because if you persist long enough with these steps, you’ll rise above the insanity of survival and come face to face with your next stage: the comfortable life.

Let’s examine what that looks and feels like.

The Comfortable Stage

“Things are…uh, good.”
“I’m fine. Everything is OK.”
“We should be grateful for what we have.”

Facepalm. This is often the language of a comfortable life: you’re no longer in a state of endless survival, and the 24/7 drama has been replaced by a feeling of comfort. Make no mistake, this is where around 75% of people are —and often wind up spending their entire lives in this place.

Now, if this is what you desire and what you authentically want: more power to you. Own it, and don’t waste your energy aspiring for more. But often, comfortable is not too comfortable. When we examine this stage a little closer —we see a ton of discomfort.

Specifically, in this stage —there’s something missing. The enthusiasm and life force for life has waned. Things seem dull, lacking color. There is nothing pulling you on the horizon, and if it does —it only lasts a little while. You’re finding yourself “stuck” but not knowing what to do. In this stage, lacking clarity, momentum and enthusiasm for something bigger and bolder is the status quo. You’re lacking a meaningful and purposeful challenge for your life.

The comfortable stage is by far the hardest to leave. Because you don’t have the buzzing alarms of survival —it’s hard to create urgency and focus for the next level. You’ve achieved a little bit —and because of this, you now have something to lose. Making bold decisions and taking on risks here seems irresponsible because of this. Especially because you’ve experienced survival —and never want to go back.

As I showed above with the language, “good”, “fine” and “OK” are markers of a comfortable life. Often, the technique of fake gratitude is used here: you talk yourself into saying you should be grateful, but deep down it doesn’t feel right. Something’s off and missing. In your quiet moments, you’re desperate for something new.

survival comfort thrivingHow to Get Out of Comfort

In my work with clients, this is often the stage they find themselves in. Long ago, I stopped working with clients in survival: I do deep and transformative work, and those in survival usually can’t grasp the concepts and mindsets required because of the endless urgency and lack of space.

If you’re in the comfortable stage, here’s how you can get out:

Step 1: Get radically honest and transparent about your life. Take inventory and allow the real feelings to come out.

Step 2: Examine the cost of not moving forward —and staying down this path. Again, the tool of Reverse Visualization is a great way to leverage future regret to make a decision right here, right now.

Step 3: Take on a mighty mission or challenge. In comfort, you’re able to think in bigger time horizons than survival: this is where setting aggressive, meaningful targets is crucial to leave your comfort zone. Find something that drives you…and scares you at the same time.

Step 4: Seek guidance and help from a mentor or coach. Again, leaving comfort is difficult —and going it alone may work for a little while…until it doesn’t. I’ve seen this play out many, may times: find a mentor, coach or program that won’t let you slide back into mediocrity and playing small.

Remember: comfort isn’t quite so comfortable.

Do you really want to spend your life in this stage —with no deeper purpose and meaning? Because the pain of untapped potential leads to destructive habits in your life.

The comfortable life loves to watch others play out their dreams on the television sets, the sports arenas and the Hollywood films. Because deep down, those in comfort know they’re meant for something bigger —but they’re stuck.

The next best thing is to watch someone else do it, but it never lasts. After the thrill of the football game is over —you’re left with yourself.

The Thriving Stage

The holy grail. The thriving stage is where you and I are designed to be: living this experience of life full tilt, full of incredible moments of meaning, purpose, inspiration and stepping into our highest selves.

Make no mistake: this is the life everyone deeply desires. It’s when you’re off the sidelines chasing impossible dreams…and making them real. It’s when you’re seeking the challenge — instead of it coming to find you. It’s when you push yourself every single day: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Thriving doesn’t mean things are easy —you don’t want things to be easy. You want to be challenged, to brush up against your emotional edges and create transformation. In this stage, you think bold and big: setting 10-year visions is easy, and you tap deep into the rituals of morning routines, creating space, working on your skills and finding new ways to maximize every moment.

Does being in thriving mean you let loose and do nothing? Not at all. Because in a thriving stage, your desire to grow is much bigger than your desire to stay comfortable. In a state of thriving, you’ve achieved a baseline of results but also know there’s plenty more in the tank.

survival comfort thrivingWhat Does Thriving Look and Feel Like?

When you’re thriving physically, no challenge is too big. You seek to push your body to new limits, in different ways —maybe it’s tackling a big race, the adventure of a mountain or even a deep yoga and spiritual practice.

When you’re thrving in your purpose and business, you’ve moved from selfish desires to selfless endeavors. Now, it’s not only about you: it’s about impact, service and touching lives. You’re pulled by what Tony Robbins calls a ‘magnificent obsession’ —a vivid picture of the future you can touch and feel.

When you’re thriving in your relationships, you’re constantly pouring into them. Your intimate relationship is connected and on fire, and people are always asking you for advice. You have a powerful social circle of inspired people who hold you to your greatest self. Most importantly, you have an incredible and inspired relationship with the person in the mirror.

Once you’ve experienced a state of thriving, you never want to retreat back to comfort —or worse, survival. But no matter where you find yourself today: we’ve all experienced thriving, which means you can get it back. When I surveyed my audience in a live webinar about what it feels like to thrive, they said:

Freedom, flow, presence, growth, fun, play, relax, abundance, energy, enthusiasm, intention and power.

You deserve to be in a state of thriving, but it’s not going to magically happen. It’s going to be a state of life of your choosing and creating. Every single day, you must start again. When you’re thriving, you love this challenge —it’s become who you are.

One Shift To Get To The Next Level

During this post, we went through the three common stages of life. This has been the best way for me to teach and help people identify where they currently find themselves…and what to do about it.

Make sure you identify which stage you’re in and at least one action step you can complete in the next 24 hours to create momentum towards the next stage. Or, if you’re thriving —to ensure you stay there and never retreat.

The Leap Of Your Life is Nearly Out!

If this post connected with you, then my brand new book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is definitely for you. This book is designed to get you clear on your next bold decision, stop putting your dreams off —and live in a state of thriving.

You can grab it now on Amazon or Barnes & Noble today and make sure you never, ever wake up with a sinking feeling of regret.

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When Radical Change Requires Radical Change

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NOTE: I also did an audio version of this post, which you can listen to on the Resist Average Academy podcast about when radical change…requires radical change.

When Radical Change Requires Radical Change

There are moments in our lives where we have a clear fork in the road: we let go of who we’ve been, stepping into the unknown —or we sink back into the familiar, even if it’s painful.

Make no mistake: these are inflection points in our lives where everything can change. If we’re open, ready and willing. These are the moments where your head and heart are in a winner take all tug-of-war. You know what to do, and yet like a conniving snake —fear starts to take a stranglehold on every part of your body.

Every moment that passes from here on out is a missed opportunity of a radically different life. Deep down, you know this —and the pain of untapped potential starts to rot you from inside. You carry on the conventional path, the one someone else wanted for you, at the expense of the Man or Woman in the mirror.

Time passes, and you’ve become a cynic to your own dreams. You see the world as a dangerous, lackluster place. You have lost your life force. The dreams you experienced in 4K HD color are now black and white. There is no color, and apathy is the drug of choice.

You are the walking dead, the masses quietly living in desperation. You can’t stand the face in the mirror, let alone spend quiet time alone. Distraction is your method of numbness: watching others live their dreams on movie screens and fields of play connects to the spark you used to have. Until the dopamine runs out, and you’re left with yourself once again.

You wake up years down the line and feel the burden of an unlived life: bags under your eyes representing the shackles of regret, shoulders slumped after years of being pummelled by the inner critic inside of you. This is pain, this is your reality.

Or is it?

I’m here to tell you: it doesn’t have to be this way. There is another world out there for you, too. There is always a choice. There is always an option. And sometimes radical change in our lives requires…well, radical change.

It requires a blowtorch, not a candle.
It requires a chainsaw, not a scissor.
It requires going all in, not merely dabbling.

In this post, I’m going to deep dive into the moments where radical change is required….for radical results. I’m going to share four tools that have completely shifted my ability to make bold decisions, and do it now.

This is not for the faint of heart, and if you’re easily triggered or offended —not for you.

But I’m here for the truth, and I hope you are, too.

radical change requires radical change Tommy bakerThis Isn’t Working…What Now?

This isn’t working. You hear these voices during your morning commute, in the midst of a warm shower, or on the airplane as you level off at 37,000 feet —when you finally have some time to think.

Something has to change, you think to yourself. In the moment, it feels right. You’re not lacking clarity in this place. But then you stop yourself, asking:

But how am I going to do it?
It doesn’t feel like the right time.
I should be grateful for what I have.

And slowly, you begin to convince yourself. You talk yourself out of making a change, fear slowly takes over until you get back to your logical brian and distract yourself out of it.

These are whispers of wisdom, and not heeding their call is a dangerous game.

Because as time passes, the whispers grow in force —becoming louder as they raise the stakes, begging for your attention to do something. Anything. Time will pass, and what started as a whisper becomes a loud voice, a yell, a top-of-the-lungs moment:

This is crisis, this is the universe putting a stick in the middle of your life’s wheel.

But again, it doesn’t have to be this way. Let’s dig into a toolkit you can rely on during these moments to ensure you don’t miss them. And most importantly: to ensure you don’t wake up with regret and thinking what could have been.

 

Radical Change Tool #1: Reverse Visualization

If you’re here, you’ve likely heard of the practice of visualization: creating mental movies of the blissful future you’d like to experience. Whether landing a big business deal or finding the love of your life, visualization can be a powerful practice to shift your awareness towards what you desire.

But I’ve also been obsessed with a powerful tool I’ve taught to countless clients and in my seminars, programs and on the podcast: reverse visualization.

Here’s how it works: take your current circumstance, problem or situation in life that is causing you stress, anxiety and pain.

Hold it in tight, and then use your mental energy to visualize the following:

You wake up 5 or 10 years down the line and you didn’t do it. Whatever you know you need to change now, never happened. You’re in the same place but much, much worse. You’ve had to live with yourself during all these years knowing what to do —but not bringing it to life.

What does this look and feel like?

Don’t take this lightly: use visualization and the power of your mind to walk through every painstaking moment of your day, the hollow feeling of not doing it.

Because the truth is: if you don’t act, this is how you’re going to feel. If you amplify the painful future enough, today’s bold decision pales in comparison and you give yourself permission to go all in. What seemed “risky” now seems like a no brainer, because your future self is begging you to make it happen.

Tommy baker leap of your lifeRadical Change Tool #2: Quantum Decision Making

95% of people make decisions today based on who they’ve been —which means their re-affirming the past. This leads to predictable results and feeling stuck. Because our past isn’t who we are anymore, there is no option but to stay in a place of paralysis analysis and in a rut.

But what if there was a way to make decisions based on the future versions of ourselves —the person who has already created all of your visions and dreams?

Enter the second tool for radical change: quantum decision making. I’ve been teaching this one for a while now, too —and it has completely shifted my game.

The next time you’re faced with a decision, ask yourself a simple question:

What would the version of yourself who has accomplished your vision do in this exact circumstance?

Personally, I take myself ten years down the line and meet with my future self. Because to that version of myself, it’s a no-brainer. He almost laughs at my indecision. Because he’s stepped up to the plate so many times and put himself on the line, he tells me exactly what to do.

To make this powerful, you’re going to need to have clarity around where you’re headed. Don’t complicate it: you only need some clarity. When you use this tool, you’ll act courageously. Most importantly: you’ll begin to collapse the time for that future self to become who you are…today.

Radical Change Tool #3: Collapse Time for Urgency

There’s a story about entrepreneur Peter Thiel asking people about their 10 year goals. Once the person answers what they’re grand vision and goal is, he comes back to them with a simple question:

How can you make it happen in 6 months? Often —people react by saying it’s too impossible, they need the time, it’s going to take a lot of work, etc.

But here’s why I love this: it follows a universal principle called Parkinson’s Law. This law, in the context of what we’re talking about —is simple:

If you believe it’s going to take yourself ten years, it’s going to take ten years.

Groundbreaking, huh? But we recognize this in our daily lives: we give ourselves a deadline to accomplish a task a week from Monday, and on Sunday night we’re cranking everything out to finish just in time. In my coaching and programs, we set one year visions and then set 90 day targets to accomplish one year’s worth of results in the timeframe.

Think back to the last time you had a real, tangible deadline with negative consequences to not doing it. You made it happen, even when you thought it may be impossible.

Same goes for when you need to create radical change. Time is an illusion, and by forcing yourself to collapse time: you have no time for fear, procrastination, guessing or waiting. You’ve created high levels of urgency and accountability, and it has to be done.

Examples of Radical Change

The moment I went all in on radical change is the moment my entire life shifted. I don’t share the above out of guessing —I’ve used it on myself and countless clients. I’ve spoken about these concepts with billionaires and some of the world’s most successful creators.

But I wanted to share some of the moments I created radical change in life, to give you some context. Here are some examples during the last few years:

1. Cutting out every single person in my social circle and choosing to spend nearly all my time in solitude for one year.

RESULT: I read 100+ books in one year and went down a powerful path of self discovery, getting to know who I am —and feeling fulfilled.

2. Investing $25,000 in myself and my dreams when I had $900 in the account and hadn’t paid rent yet.

RESULT: I completely shifted what I felt possible for me, stepped into my power as a Man and business owner —and created my biggest one day revenue result in business ($50,000) six weeks after.

3. Throwing away my TV and listening to the same audio training 476 nights in a row.

RESULT: Similar to number one, I knew something needed to change. I was consuming powerful material, but nothing was happening. I went deep into a tape by my mentor, Dr. John Demartini —and never looked back.

4. Moving cross country with no plan, no blueprint, no guarantees —but knowing my old environment was eating me alive.

RESULT: The thrill of feeling alive, carving my own path and living in a place I absolutely love. The ability to access nature every day…and meeting my soul mate along the way.

5. Having a 15 second window to meet my soul mate and going all in.

RESULT: I had 15 seconds and every reason not to do it. But at the time, I’d been disappointed by relationships for so long —I chose to create radical change.

What’s Your Radical Change?

Make no mistake: radical change is powerful —and required.

As I said earlier, too often I talk to people who know they must make radical change…but make small, inconsequential decisions.

At the end of the day, the trajectory of our lives is based on hundreds of thousands of decisions we make —some massive, some medium and some that don’t seem like anything. Using the tools above, you’ll now be able to make bold decisions in line with the most powerful version of yourself.

Order The Leap Of Your Life Today!

No more waiting. No more hoping. No more wishing.

Sometimes, there’s a bold leap you and I must take —a decision that radically changed our lives.

This is exactly what you’ll find in my brand new book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

Available now here, on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or your local bookstore. This is your guidebook to use fear as a compass, eradicate regret…and do it now.

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5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

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These lessons were extracted from a conversation we had with Naveen Jain on the Resist Average Academy podcast, which you can access through the link above.

5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

There’s a certain weight that comes with the “b” in billionaire —and recently I had the pleasure of spending 40 minutes with one of them. Naveen Jain is a serial entrepreneur, moonshot thinker and all-around genius of creation. I first saw and met Naveen at Thrive, an annual event put on by Cole Hatter —and a few months later we hosted him on the Academy.

I wanted to share some of the key lessons I learned from this time with him because what I learned went above and beyond the words he said. During the conversation, he was enthusiastic, present and used empowering language. He spoke of solving the world’s most messy problems —including healthcare, our shrinking resources and even traveling to the moon and beyond.

There is no doubt this time spent with him opened my world. I recognized the places I’m limiting myself, and how the greatest thinkers of all time are obsessed with possibility and wonder. It reminded me to tap into my inner child —and to look up in a world where everyone looks down at digital devices.

Here are the 5 lessons I learned from billionaire Naveen Jain you can start applying to your life and business today.

Lesson 1: Energy Creates Value

“Naveen! Are you there?”

“Tommy, Tommy, I’m here! Ready”.

The first lesson I learned from Naveen was about raw enthusiasm and energy for life. Because here’s the truth: my platform is small, and Naveen has been featured on the biggest media outlets in the world. He has all the cash he needs and is one of the most successful entrepreneurs and visionaries on the planet.

And yet, here he is radiating enthusiasm for an interview he’s likely done over and over. Make no mistake: our energy and enthusiasm for our mission and life will dictate the level of value we’re able to create. Because, as I’ve said on the Resist Average Academy Podcast: big dreams require big energy.

Waking up to a mundane corporate gig to do the minimum work required doesn’t require a ton of energy. Aimlessly drifting through life doesn’t require much energy. But building a life around a mighty mission is going to require physical, mental and emotional bandwidth to endure long term.

ACTION STEP: What is your level of energy and enthusiasm for your current life and purpose, and what can you do to level it up?

 

Lesson 2: Never Lose Your Curiosity

Naveen told me a story about being raptured by the moon as a young child —knowing he wanted to go there. But the moon is only the first stop: his curiosity wants to take him to bigger and bolder places.

Curiosity, then, is the spark required to bring our vision to life. Naveen’s work all comes from being obsessively curious: about space, exploration, education, health care and much, much more. You and I don’t need to find our curiosity: it is our natural state. However, as we’ve grown up most of us have lost the unquenchable thirst of curiosity we used to have as other people told us to “get real”.

When this happens, we become less enthusiastic about our lives and we shun a part of ourselves that has always been with us. Often in interviews, people will ask me about finding their purpose. The place I start is simple: pull at the strings of what already makes you curious, and everything will change.

“The day you stop being intellectually curious is the day you die.”

ACTION STEP: What is one topic, interest or activity you used to be deeply curious about and lost?

 

Lesson 3: Billionaires Think Differently

The number one difference between someone like you and I and Naveen Jain is about one thing only: the way we see the world and think about it. Because this determines everything else.

What I learned from our riveting conversation was simply how differently he thinks —especially about challenges and adversity. Even someone who’s primed in positive psychology would struggle with the sheer optimism Naveen brings to the table. For example, he sees every industry crisis as a real-world opportunity to step in a deliver value. When someone tells him “no” —he truly believes he’s closer to a bolder yes.

When we’re looking to create results, we tend to focus on the external: tactics, mechanics and strategy. Instead, we should be focusing on the deep level thinking we’re bringing to the table: this will impact everything we do. And if it’s off, or small-minded —there’s no amount of tactics capable of overcoming this type of thinking.

For most people I coach and train in life and business, their biggest issue has nothing to do with knowledge and everything to do with the way they’re currently thinking about those mechanics. Once we create transformation in their thinking, everything changes.

“If we believe something is impossible, then it becomes impossible to achieve.”

ACTION STEP: A recent time you were thinking small was _____ and the results were _____. How could you have changed your thinking for a better result?

 

Lesson 4: Language Represents Belief

What if?
Imagine.
Possibility.

Early on during our conversation, I noticed the use of his language and how it always came from an empowering place. He must have said imagine 9 times in the first 10 minutes.

I’ve always been fascinated by language, as it pulls the curtains back on our deeply held beliefs and worldview. For example, in my programs and coaching —we specifically don’t use words like “try” “maybe” “I guess” or anything else which may be deemed disempowering or vague.

Here’s why: your spoken word is a creative declaration to the world around you. If you can’t own this inherent part of our reality —it represents a misalignment. A belief is not serving you, or you’re thinking you’re not capable.

You can tell very quickly if someone has confidence based on the language they’re using. As a student of NLP, I’ve recognized the importance of our language: the words we choose, the tone we inflect and body language. Collectively, these determine how we see the world and our place in it.

ACTION STEP: Examine your language for the next 24 hours and identify 3 words you can delete or shift.

 

Lesson 5: If They Don’t Call You Crazy, You’re Doing It Wrong

Have you ever had a bold idea, knowing it was right for you, got excited and told someone close to you —and they shot you down immediately?

We’ve all been there, and it’s why we must be incredibly careful about who we’re seeking feedback from. Because sometimes the people closest to us can shoot down our dreams the quickest. To me, the greatest tragedy is having a spark of enthusiasm over a creative idea, business or endeavor…only to watch it fade when declared to someone else.

This is where the last lesson learned from Naveen Jain comes in: if people don’t call you crazy, you’re doing it wrong. If you’re out there living your best life and pushing the throttle on growth, people will doubt you. If you’re shipping a message near and dear to your heart, the critics will come. Make no mistake, this is part of the game.

“Find something you’re willing to die for and live for it.”

ACTION STEP: Take inventory of your inner circle. Do they support and expand you or contract you?

 

5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

So, there you have it. A short conversation led to a complete perspective shift —and I wanted to share these lessons with you to ensure you apply them in your own life and business. If you’re here, it’s because you’re meant for something big and bold, and the pain of untapped potential is something you want no part of.

Which of these lessons connected with you? I’d love to hear it!

89 Ways to Find Your Purpose

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89 Ways to Find Your Purpose

“Tommy, how do I find my purpose?”

This is one of the most common questions I receive at least once a day —through the podcast, on social media or in random conversations.

Here’s the great news: you’re much closer than you think, and often thinking is what’s getting in the way of your truth. But there’s also some bad news: finding your purpose comes with great responsibility. You can no longer conveniently hide behind the excuse of looking for it.

What I’ve found to be true is our purpose finds us when we’re living in alignment and taking courageous steps forward. There’s no direct path, and it’s less about discovering more about allowing.

Allowing your inner truth to shine.
Allowing your curiosity to take center field.
Allowing the power of who you are to be unveiled.

Here are 89 ways I’ve used to help myself and others find their purpose, live a life of alignment and never look back with regret:

1. Find what you’re already curious about and pull on those strings: they contain gold to find your purpose.

2. Try everything — improv, comedy, dance, astronomy, speaking, cooking and go deep enough to know if you love it or not.

3. Go into the woods and don’t leave until your purpose comes to you.

(Thank you to David Deida for this one, and his brilliant work Way of The Superior Man.)

4. Give yourself permission to find your purpose — most people already know but they’re holding back in fear.

5. Take an energy inventory for the week and put a plus sign for anything that lights you up — there are hints in there.

6. Take a “you” day. What do you do, how do you spend your time? Where do you go?

7. Spend more time in activities that make you forget who you are, and where you lose all track of time.

8. Read texts that open up your world, and invite a deeper questioning.

(Some of my favorites include Emerson’s Self Reliance, Marcus Aurelius Meditations, Seneca’s On The Shortness Of Life.)

tommy baker find your purpose9. Train physically and push beyond your edge: there’s peace and clarity on the other side of physical intensity.

10. Create your own life philosophy and a set of principles you want to live by. This practice alone will shift your game in a world where 99% of people can’t answer this.

11. Turn off Netflix, CNN, ESPN or any of the other noise that’s not allowing your purpose to come to the surface. Distraction is a killer in regards to finding your purpose.

12. Spend 3-10 days in meditation, a spiritual retreat and get outside of your comfort zone and watch what happens.

13. Ask better questions, and seek answers to the deepest ones you’ve been asking and watch what happens.

14. Free write every single day for 10 minutes on your purpose and spend the next 365 days committing to it without any expectations.

(Julia Cameron’s The Artists Way has a technique called Morning Pages which is incredible for this.)

15. Go to an experiential training seminar or crucible experience where you’re left with nothing but finding your purpose.

16. Stop trying to find it analytical exercises — your purpose comes from your heart.

tommy baker 1% rule17. Sometimes, you have to stop trying to find it all together and simply surrender. At that moment, a gift will come to you.

18. Go back to when you were a kid and examine the things that you were most curious about — and which ones you miss the most today.

19. Take yourself to ten years from now, and grab a blank piece of paper. Write a letter to yourself.

20. Make a list of 20 things you’re deeply interested in, 20 real world, tangible skills you have — and then connect the dots between these on how you can solve a problem.

21. Imagine you’re giving a commencement speech. You have no time to plan — what is the one thing you’d want to leave the audience with?

22. Hit rock bottom. No, not the most fun way to do it — but sometimes we have to be stripped naked to find our truth.

23. Hire a coach or mentor to help unlock your purpose and ask you powerful questions.

24. Ask 10 people for feedback — and find an easy for them to tell you what they think you’re here to do.

25. Spend 20 hours in a float tank. This alone time will peel back your layers and you’ll get insights you could have never imagined.

26. Watch movies and films that make you question everything.

(Personal favorites include Into The Wild, Life Of Pi, Cast Away.)

27. Just make the decision you’ve been waiting to make. Take the leap, and simply go. No more analyzing, no more holding back…it’s time.

(I wrote an entire book on this, available for pre-order now. Stop waiting.)

28. Shift your environment: get a new office, move from your home and apartment and go somewhere new. Change your city. Do something different!

29. Do one uncomfortable action every single day. This will build your self-confidence and put the reps in as you continue your path of searching and self-discovery.

30. Write your eulogy. Go to your local cemetery and breathe in the lessons from those who have come before us. Now pull out a journal and write down how you want to be remembered.

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31. Do a daily meditation about your one year vision for the next 30 days. Keep a journal with you and make notes of the common patterns that come up time and time again.

32. Take the pressure off. You don’t need to build a business around your purpose today. But a purposeful life is one decision away.

33. Unplug from all social devices for a specific period of time. Spend this time in solitude and get to know who you really are.

34. Release the past. We all have emotional baggage that is now a heavy burden on taking our next step.

35. Do that one thing you’ve been putting off. The road trip you wanted to take, do it now. The conversation you’d been wanting to have. Just go!

36. Play. Sometimes, the best form of clarity you and I can get is when we don’t take it so seriously.

37. Read this post. It changed my life. It woke me up. I still read it all the time. We have all felt like John.

38. Take the smartphone test. Find your last 10 texts: if 8/10 aren’t inspiring and empowering…you’re hanging with the wrong crowd. Find a tribe designed to uncover your purpose.

39. Study the greats. Transcribe their texts. I’ve done this several times, and it taps into a much deeper part of who I am.

40. Listen to empowering information every single day. Even 15 minutes a day as a student will invite deeper questions, and you’ll begin to discover some truths.

41. Use Reverse Visualization to take yourself 3, 10 and 20 years down the line without you having done anything in regards to your purpose. How does this feel? Urgency creates clarity.

42. Be the Linchpin today. Stop waiting. If you’re an accountant, be the best in the world. If you’re a waitress, deliver 10X the value. Purpose is created when we’re committed to excellence.

tommy baker 1% rule43. Release the ego. Easier said than done: our egos blind us from the truth. Learn to be aware of the times it comes up and stubbornly stops you from doing what you must.

44. Spend an entire day in nature without a phone. Run, hike, climb, use a mountain bike. Explore the land and remember what it felt like to live in possibility.

45. Start something, anything. Start the blog you’ve wanted to start. Document your path of finding your purpose. Inspire someone else.

46. Spend time creating. You’re creative…trust me. Your purpose is your greatest creativity in action. The more time you spend creating, the closer you’re going to get.

47. Read the biographies of the masters. Those who changed industries and lives by stepping into their purpose.

48. Get in tune with your emotions and build your intelligence and resilience. A lack of understanding what we’re feeling blocks us from recognizing our deepest truths.

49. Go to at least one event per quarter in the realm of personal growth, development and/or business or spirituality. Taking time to work “on” you is crucial.

50. Grow 1% every single day. Even if you feel completely off purpose, you can do enough to grow 1%. This builds momentum and creates clarity.

(I wrote an entire book on this, of course…check out The 1% Rule right here.)

51. Get into flow states. These are created by intense focus, presence and the right dose of challenge. When you’re in these…anything is possible.

52. Identify and list your personal values. These are your highest priorities and what you want to be about. What are they? How do you exemplify them? Create a space to answer these questions.

53. Forgive yourself and others. This is a daily practice. The darker emotions of resentment, anger, and aggression will cloud all of your clarity and certainty.

54. On that note, don’t numb your dark emotions. They’re part the human experience…when you feel them, really feel them. But then choose to let them go.

55. Leave your comfort zone at least once a day. You’ll know you are when fear and doubt kick in with an equal mix of excitement. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

tommy baker leap of your life56. Take the day off and go skydiving. Get into a boxing match. Create an adventure and tap into primal fear: this is a fantastic way to get rid of your excuses.

(I’ve done the skydiving one twice, both on random occasions. It woke me up and made me feel more alive.)

57. Take a 30, 60 or 90-day challenge. No alcohol. No TV. No fast food. No social media. Something to challenge you…and invite a more aligned habit.

58. Take on an intense physical challenge: a Spartan Race, a 10K, some type of test and adventure. These will open up your world and belief in yourself.

59. Grab a blank piece of paper and ask a simple question: what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? Set a timer and write, write, write. Don’t judge it…go!

60. Do Holotropic Breathwork. This is one of my favorite ways to get in touch with the clarity of my purpose…and remind myself what matters.

61. Read the Bhagavad Gita, The Power Of Now, and other classic spiritual texts.

62. Stare in the mirror at yourself and hold eye contact for at least 5 minutes. This is not easy and will challenge you. Then write down what you saw.

63. Study at least an hour a day on the topic of purpose, creativity, passion and living an inspired life. Be the humble student…when something resonates, you’re pulling on the right strings.

64. Don’t do this alone. Invest your physical, mental, emotional and financial resources in a skilled coach, mentor or program to help you tap into your purpose.

(The number one excuse is “I don’t have the money” right now. This is why you’re stuck.)

65. Write your life mission statement. I’ve done this 100+ times. Every time, I get much more clear. Write it, print it out and look at it every single day.

66. Get rid of the relationships in your life that drag you down. You know who these people are: after you spend time with them, you’re exhausted and unmotivated.

67. Start living on purpose now. Do the dishes with purpose. Hold eye contact with purpose. Engage with your partner…with purpose.

68. Journal every single day and celebrate your wins. This will build your confidence and tune your awareness towards what is working…instead of how far you’ve got to go.

69. Stop trying so damn hard. I know, I know. But remember: what you think your version of your purpose is can be the rigidness that holds you back. Finding your purpose is an evolution closely tied to your personal growth.

70. On that note, fall in love with the art of surrender. This isn’t giving up…it’s about letting go with every part of your being.

71. If life isn’t working…great. Go deep into the darkness of your breakdown. Release the identity of who you “think” you are. There is magic in here. Avoidance of pain is true suffering. Facing our pain is liberation.

72. On that note, do the messy inner work of getting to know your deepest corners and places you feel guilt and shame about. Most people never do this and wonder why they keep repeating the same patterns.

73. Get honest! Come on…stop lying to yourself. You already know what to do.

74. Have conversations with other people who have been where you’ve been: Men’s groups, Women’s groups…anything to go deeper and beyond the usual surface area fluff most people engage in.

75. Cut out all distraction. Turn off all notifications. You will never, ever find your purpose in the noise.

tommy baker resist average academy76. Commit to a powerful morning routine every single day. Early on…it won’t make much of a difference. A year from now you’ll be a completely different person.

77. Honor divine timing. Stop trying to control every single outcome in your life. Do the work in front of you, and then let go. This is not your timeline. There are greater forces at play.

78. Read Seneca’s “On The Shortness Of Life.” Read “The Dash” Poem. Watch Steve Job’s Stanford Commencement speech. These are all beautiful reminders of how little time we have left.

79. Close your eyes, and meet the 7-year-old version of yourself. Hold space with them…and then do the same with the 77-year-old version of yourself. Repeat this exercise several times: what would they both be proud of?

80. Deconstruct the greatest moments of your life. Pull out a journal and pull apart the ingredients of what made these so special. There’s gold in there and these will help you find your purpose.

81. Release your emotions…allow yourself to be sad. Cry like there’s no tomorrow. There is clarity on the other side of emotional release.

82. Build your physical foundation. Big dreams and a powerful purpose requires a lot of energy. It’s hard to think big when your foundation is running on empty.

83. Have conversations with people in their 70’s, 80’s and 90’s. They’ve got some life wisdom you and I don’t.

(On that note, Bronnie Ware’s Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying is also a brilliant book to remember what matters.)

84. Remember the miracles happening at every moment. Trillions of cells are dying and growing right now. Your heart is pumping…still. You woke up today. You are here…that is enough.

85. On that note, you are enough. You are worthy. Spending your entire life trying to prove this is exhausting. Own your power. Own your worth.

86. Take yourself a decade or two down the line. Then write down what “you wished you would have known” at your current age.

87. Craft your North Star vision. Have a guiding compass for your life, otherwise, you’ll always be lost at sea and the storms will crush you.

88. Stop overthinking. Paralysis analysis and spreadsheets don’t matter to your purpose. What makes you good at business is what makes you terrible at things like purpose.

89. Allow. Allow your purpose to come through you. This is when you find your purpose. In a moment, you can make the decision to start living it right now, even if you don’t have the full picture.

Find Your Purpose and Pre-Order The Leap Of Your Life!

tommy baker leap of your lifeSo, there you have it —I wanted to share these with you because I am always being asked the same questions around purpose:

How do I find my purpose?
How do I really know it’s my purpose?
What if I don’t know what my purpose is?

This is your life’s journey —and the 89 ways I detailed above are all designed to point you in the right direction to find your purpose.

If you only do a few of these, I have no doubt you’ll create some clarity and momentum that you didn’t have prior.

Lastly, I wanted to remind you that my upcoming book, The Leap Of Your Life is now available for pre-order on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, your local bookseller and on this page for massive bonuses. This book was written for you: to help you identify the bold move in front of you and not just dream big…but live big.

What did you get from this? Post to comments!

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How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

By | Advice, Masterclass, Writing
Reading Time: 10 minutes

NOTE: I did a Quick Hit episode on this topic, which I’ve linked above. The audio is a simpler version of the in-depth process I’m sharing below, but can be a great companion to listen to.

How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

Monday morning comes around —and there are typically two types of people out there:

95% of people wake up in a fog, scattered, and putting out fires. They have no clarity on where they’re going —they simply want to make it through the day as fast as they can, so they can come back, “relax” and/or lay on the couch, binge-watching Netflix.

(Not that there’s anything inherently wrong with Netflix…but distraction is usually a feedback mechanism for a lack of clarity and purpose.)

Then, there’s the 5% of people who wake up with intention —they’ve designed their day based on a broader desire or vision. Their actions, rituals, habits, and environments support where they’re headed. There’s a peace and calm, balanced with a deliberate focus to start their week.

Now, there’s no question who is more likely to create meaningful progress in their life and business between these two. But if you’re an entrepreneur, freelancer or work for yourself in some capacity —this becomes even more important.

One of my most prized rituals which I teach all of my clients and constantly share on the podcast, here on the blog or social media is simple: If you do it right, taking 45-60 minutes on a Sunday to reflect, course correct, commit and prepare can and will change your life.

In this post, I’ll share the exact process I use and teach —as well as tools and resources to help you do the same. Because if you do, you’ll create the clarity and momentum most people wish for.

And as you know, wishing is never a strategy for success. But first, let’s get clear on why this matters in the first place.

tommy baker change your lifeWhere Will You Be One Year From Today?

Barring some type of physical catastrophe in your life —you’ll be waking up in one year. And you’re either going to be in a radically different place than where you find yourself today…

Or most likely —you’re going to be exactly where you are now, but worse. If you’re in a career that isn’t working, you’ll be worse off. If you’re finding yourself lacking momentum, you’ll be even more stuck. If you’re not making the money you want in your entrepreneurial or freelancing gigs…your bank account is bound to look the same.

The truth is: success is quite predictable, and sometimes even boringly predictable —look at someone’s mindset, behaviors, and habits and you’ll get a clear picture of where they’re likely to end up. Sure, there are outliers. But I’m not going to bank my life on unicorns, even if they’re kinda cute.

But there’s also another possibility: you wake up, and you’ve seen tremendous progress over the last year. The little decisions you made to adopt a morning routine, get clear around your goals and invest in some accountability are now paying off.

Remember: this Sunday routine, like anything else —can seem insignificant in the moment. Because this Sunday, if you do it or you don’t, you likely won’t see monumental change. But if you take this practice and compound it over a full year, you can be living a radically different life. You could have finally achieved the momentum you wanted, made the extra $20,000 you dreamed of —launched the platform or written your first book.

Like I said earlier, during the thousands of hours I’ve spent in the trenches obsessing over peak performance, human behavior change and results —the Sunday ritual came up time and time again.

Now let’s explore exactly what you’ll be doing on Sundays to maximize your success and never look back.

tommy baker change your liifeStep 1: Reflection

When was the last time you pushed the pause button on the freight train of your life and asked some deep questions, such as:

Am I on the right path, and do I know where I’m going?

What is my level of excitement and enthusiasm for life?

Why am I doing this all for anyway —what’s my bigger why?

Now, here’s what I’ve known to be true: we all ask these questions, but rarely create the necessary container to answer them. Meaning: we may contemplate these riding high above the clouds at 37,000 feet, but then we check our phones or fall asleep.

We may have a moment after a workout where we tap into something deeper —and then start our workday. Put simply: because we live in a shallow, caffeinated, non-stop stimulus world —true reflection is rare.

So the first step of your Sunday Reflection protocol is all about reflection —and taking the time to check in with yourself by asking yourself the following questions:

What was your biggest win(s) of the last week and how did you make them happen?

The first part of the reflection process of Sunday Reflection is about one thing: celebrating your wins. Because too often, we either conveniently forget the places we won, or choose to focus on what isn’t working. I don’t care how challenging, hard and scattered the last week was: there are wins in there, and plenty of them. It’s not about the magnitude of the wins, this is about celebrating yourself.

Once you’ve identified at least three wins, take a moment to de-construct how you made that happen. Think of how’d you teach someone else the principles and tools you used to bring it to life.

For example:

My biggest win this week was making a decision on my next project —and completing the research phase.

Deconstruction:

How I made this win happen was by setting boundaries and taking focused action —even with a busy week, I created the time by planning and saying “no” to other opportunities.

Or, let’s use another example:

My biggest win this week was connecting with my significant other and kids with an amazing date night experience where we laughed and were all fully present.

Deconstruction:

How I made this happen and the lesson I’d teach others is: if you don’t schedule something in, it probably won’t happen. I’d noticed we hadn’t done a proper date night in months, because we were “busy.” By planning it out in advance, I made it happen and it was incredible.

By doing this, you’re not only putting your focus on what’s working (which as we stated earlier, is rare), but you’re teaching yourself how you made it happen. This re-wires your neural circuitry in real time and will help you replicate these results in the future. This is the path to self-mastery where you build on your successes time and time again.

Now, it’s time to move on to the second key question:

What was your biggest challenge(es) of the last week and what did you learn through them?

Once we’ve celebrated your wins and de-constructed how you brought them to life —it’s time to identify your biggest challenge. I usually keep this to the one big stressor or adversity experienced during the week.

Often, we don’t face our challenges and take the proper time to reflect on them —missing out on valuable lessons and growth. Often, the act of releasing our challenges on paper (or digitally, if you prefer) means they lose their emotional charge on us. In fact, research has proven

The same process applies to the celebration phase, but now you will identify the challenge and de-construct the lesson and perspective it provided.

For example:

My biggest challenge this past week was not securing new revenue or clients in my business and feeling financial scarcity and stress.

Lesson:

Don’t focus on what’s not working. Most of the week I kept checking client proposals, and there was nothing there. I felt depleted and lost my confidence by placing my attention in the wrong places. Because of this, I didn’t make any new proposals or finish the marketing plan.

Or, another example:

My biggest challenge this past week was only doing my morning ritual two out of the seven days. I felt stressed and the kids were sick —and I reverted back to old habits.

Lesson:

Simplify the routine when there’s less time, and/or wake up 20 minutes earlier. I was able to see the contrast of when I do the routine, and when I don’t. I need this “me” time.

Can you recognize the power of reflection after reading the above? This is how you supercharge your learning and use your wins and challenges as catalysts to faster growth.

Lastly, the key here is to completely own your win(s) regardless of their size and scope —and do the same for your challenges. But instead of judging yourself for the challenges, seek the lesson they taught you.

Because now you’re wiser for them and have the ability to make a new choice.

Step 2: Course Correction

The second step of how 60 minutes on a Sunday can change your life is about course correction. Because often what I’ve noticed is after we set our targets and goals —we rarely take time to ask some crucial questions:

Given where I am today, am I still on the right trajectory?

Am I behind, on or ahead of schedule with my targets?

What is something that is working that I can double down on, or something I must delete?

There are two parts to course correction. One, you must know where you’re going —personally, I break this up into my North Star vision (you can learn more about that here) and current quarterly targets based on the vision.

For example, if my goal was to bring in $100K of revenue in my business this quarter and I’m 45 days in and sitting at $25K —I may need to course correct to ensure I get where I’m going.

tommy baker leap of your lifeStep 3: New Commitments

Once we’ve done the first two steps, it’s time to look forward to the upcoming week —and create our new commitments. Notice the word choice here: this is not a hope, a wish or something you’re merely interested in:

This is a commitment, and there needs to be a powerful intention to bring this to life. The system I teach is based on doing this same process with countless mentors of mine —as well as leading my own programs.

Diving our lives into 4 areas, we ask a simple question:

What am I committed to this week in regards to my business and career?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my relationships and connection?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my physical vitality and health?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my spiritual practice and growth?

The key with these, as you’ve likely heard with most goal setting is to ensure it’s specific, and connected to your quarterly (and yearly) targets.

Here are some examples:

What am I committed to this week in regards to my business and career?

I am committed to reviewing our marketing and crafting the new plan.

I am committed to making 50 sales calls and follow-ups to potential clients.

I am committed to recording 3 podcast episodes and releasing one blog post.

Business is easy, so let’s show an example of the spiritual side of things (however you may define this):

I am committed to 10 minutes of daily meditation and reading 10 pages a day.

I am committed to one floating tank session (sensory deprivation).

I am committed to journaling every single evening about my wins of the day.

Once you’ve identified your commitments for each bucket of life, you should have a clear vision for the week. You know what you’re going to be creating, and this should fill up a decent chunk of your week. Because now, you’re part of the 5% who have clarity around their priorities, have identified specific behaviors in line with those —and have put pen to paper (and paper to the calendar, as we’ll do here in a moment).

Now it’s time for the next step: daily integration.

Step 4: Integration

The last step of this process is simple: integration. What I mean by integration is ensuring all the work you’ve done is going to turn into the real world, tangible behaviors.

The version of integration I teach and my clients use is ensuring all of the above goes into their weekly calendar. I know this is where most people stop reading, but what doesn’t get scheduled, doesn’t get done. At least not long term: and if you’ve never used a calendar, this will be painful.

But it’s also going to be worth it. Because when you prioritize every part of your life, you don’t have space for the clutter. You don’t have space, time or energy left for gossip, mindless information, useless meetings or idle time where you’re left anxious, scattered and stressed.

Here’s an example of mine:

Don’t get stressed: because within this calendar, I have plenty of time to recharge. The yellow block above in the afternoon is called afternoon white space: no one can schedule me in here, and I get to do what I please (benefit #111 of being an entrepreneur.)

What I do after I’ve done all of this is add the little things that aren’t priorities, but still have to be done: email stuff, social media, checking in with my team and other efforts.

How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

Every single mentor I’ve ever learned from directly or from afar has created the space for reflection. They all create a ‘bookmark’ to their week —and it happens on Sundays.

Whether it was Robin Sharma, Brendon Burchard, Dr. John Demartini or countless others —this is a life-changing practice. While we covered a ton of ground here, what I’ve found to work best is spend the next 66 days (the time it takes to build your habit) with your Sunday Reflection using a specific system and then start to make it your own.

Below, I’ve listed some tools and resources that help me with my reflection, as well as some research I used to bring this post to life.

I’d love to hear how it goes in the comments or if you have any questions about how to maximize your time and harness the power of this Sunday practice.

Pre-Order The Leap Of Your Life!

tommy baker leap of your lifeIt’s time, it’s time…it’s time. There’s a bold decision you’ve been waiting to make —one that will change your life. Maybe it’s quitting the job that’s eating you up inside, asking him or her out, launching your own platform or taking the risk calling you.

But you’re waiting, and every day that passes is a missed opportunity.

My latest book, The Leap Of Your Life is designed to help you identify the bold decision, execute now and ensure you don’t wake up years down the line wondering what could have been.

Learn more here, or order on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or support your local independent bookstore.

 

60 Minutes Can Change Your Life Research and Notes

  • Journaling about stressful events: effects of cognitive processing and emotional expression. “This study indicates that journaling about a personally experienced stressful or traumatic event may facilitate positive growth from the event.”
  • Study focuses on strategies for achieving goals and resolutions, including the power of sharing your goals with others for a 70 percent increase in results.
  • Cal Newport Blog: Deep Habits: Plan Your Week in Advance. 
  • Brendon Burchard, High-Performance Planner. One of my favorite tools that has a simplified version of the above and I always do both.
  • The 1% Rule. In this book, I also write about the Sunday Reflection process, why it matters and how to connect all the dots to reserve engineer your success.
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How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

By | Books, Entrepreneurship, News
Reading Time: 9 minutes

How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

This is not working.

Waiting, hoping and wishing ‘someday’ it’s all going to happen for you. The reason I know it’s not working is simple: I’ve been exactly where you are, and it left me nowhere except: stuck, alone and frustrated. Now I am consistently in conversations with those who feel they same.

And yet, nothing changes —except for one crucial thing: they start to lose their belief in themselves of bringing their deepest desires to life.

Today’s post is an excerpt from my upcoming book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

The portion included is part of the introduction, and I couldn’t be more excited to share this with you. If you’re ready to pre-order and claim massive bonuses, head over to LeapOfYourLife.com and grab yours today. You can also simply head to Amazon or Barnes & Noble here.

I wrote this book for you. The person out there who hears the whispers come during the quiet pockets of life and knows there’s something greater for you. You know it’s in there, somewhere…but you’re stuck. And the Leap Of Your Life is designed to give you permission.

Because if you give yourself permission, you’ll never be the same.

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The Leap Of Your Life Introduction

What are you waiting for?

There’s a leap in your life you’ve been putting off, and it’s killing you. Maybe not literally, but it’s killing your spirit. It’s killing your belief, your enthusiasm and the thrill of this one experience we call life. It’s killing your energy, vitality and hope for the future. When those are gone, you might as well be the walking dead.

It’s draining your life force, and every day you put it off, you’re reminded of how it hasn’t happened for you yet. And now you’re questioning if it ever will.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror. They’re reflected in bank statements. They’re felt in your body language during time with the people you love. They’re wrapped on long exhales as you aim to keep it all together.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror.

But worst of all, they’re reflected in this tireless voice in the back of your head that won’t shut up, asking:

“Is this it? Is this all that’s meant for me?”

Now, does this mean I’m certain your life isn’t working? No, not at all. Our lives can be working, and we can still have a leap we know we must take. Sometimes, this can be the most precarious circumstance of all: we have everything we’ve been told we should want, yet something is still missing.

And I’m here to tell you what’s missing is the leap of your life. But before we get into it all, let’s define what a leap is.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Leap Of Your Life Ingredients

You may be wondering: what exactly constitutes a leap? You may be thinking it’s abandoning western life and moving to an ashram in the Himalayas, quitting your accounting gig, launching the new app or parachuting out of a perfectly good airplane at 15,000 feet.

While all of those sound like fun to me and could be leaps, they don’t have to be yours.

Sometimes, the leap we have to take seems inconsequential to others and yet leads to a bold moment of no return: reaching out to a recruiter with the hopes of transitioning out of our job, having the tough conversation with our partner, launching the side hustle or finally clicking record and spreading a message with the world.

What matters, then is not necessarily the magnitude of the leap. It’s simply that it matters to you, and includes the following:

You feel a pull. You can’t explain it, but you feel pulled towards your leap. Much like a magnetic charge, you can try to avoid it, but it comes back stronger than ever.

There’s a decision. Your leap involves a decision you’ve been putting off and will require you to make a bold one.

The stakes are high. Your leap There are real consequences to not making it. There’s also endless possibility by stepping into it.

There’s an element of risk. Your leap has degree of risk, and for now you’ve chosen to play it ‘safe’ at the expense of your own fulfillment.

Not doing it will hurt more than doing it. Lastly, even though you haven’t taken your leap yet – not doing so hurts more than any consequence or perceived failure of taking it.

So, again what are you waiting for?

Because if you’re here, I already know you’re waiting for something.

Every day you put it off, a part of you withers away, knowing your dreams are on hold as you attempt to live someone else’s life. (I use the word attempt deliberately, because no matter how hard we try, it’ll never quite pan out.)

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Playing It Safe Means a Lifetime of Regret

As we begin this adventure, I want you to treat it as such. I’m going to take a wild guess you’ve read books with similar themes, but you haven’t read this one. Finishing the leap of your life will drive you towards a decision, which won’t only be shared between you and me.

There are a few reasons why you may be here right now, and I’m going to tell you why you should stick around:

First, you feel a calling for something bolder and bigger for your life — and you believe it may be possible, but you’re finding yourself stuck.

Second, you know if you continue on the same path you’re on today, you’re going to look back and feel the sinking feeling of regret.

Third, you’re tired of playing everyone else’s game. For too long, you’ve done what others told you to do and ignored a part of you that knew without question what was right.

Lastly, there’s a voice whispering to you during the silent pockets of life slowly begging you to put yourself on the line and do it now.

This voice comes to you when the intensity of life has slowed down. When it can no longer be drowned out in noise, bills and an unrelenting breaking news cycle, it comes to you. Sometimes it whispers on those long car rides where you’re running on auto-pilot and have the ability to (truly) think.

During those early mornings right before the chaos of the inbox hits. Or when you’re in those in between moments on the airplane and the perspective of being at 37,000 feet invites some deeper questions.

As long as you fit one, two or all of those descriptions — you’ve come to the right place.

By the end of our time together, one of two things will happen:

You’ll think everything I said sounded nice, but you won’t make the commitment I’m daring you to make — so this may as well be a video game. Except there’s no fantasy lands, and I’m not nearly as entertaining.

Or, you’ll have the spark, the insight, the push required to create something so powerful, the current version of yourself can’t imagine it. You’ll be brought to your knees (except this time, in a is-this-really-happening way.)

You’ll finally take the Leap of Your Life and you’ll never be the same.

But I’ve Already Taken a Leap…Is This For Me?

You may be saying to yourself: but I’ve already taken the leap. You launched your business, you moved cross country, you took the big chance. This can’t be for you, right?

Wrong. The fastest way to slide back to mediocrity is to believe life and business are about one leap. The truth is: life and business are a series of leaps and micro leaps as you continue to expand on your journey. Most assume if they already did a leap, they’ll be better prepared for the next one, right?

What I’ve found is the opposite: with making bold choices in the past, they can feel just as stuck and in fear about their next leap. Often, those with something to lose are less likely to take a leap: taking a chance is easy when you don’t have much to lose, but what about when things are working (to a certain degree)?

In working with countless thought leaders, industry trailblazers, and entrepreneurs who have made bold decisions in the past, I’ve noticed they need a constant reminder and push towards their next leap.

Otherwise, they slide back to mediocrity, the passion and challenge they once had fizzles and what once felt like a riveting life – has now vanished and become mechanical.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Greatest Risk (Is Not Taking One)

Starting your own business is risky.

Moving cross country with no plan is risky.

Asking him or her out before you’re ready is risky.

Taking a bold chance on your dreams is risky.

Right?

But what if we’re wrong – what if the real risk is putting our dreams on hold, placing them under a box labeled ‘someday’?

We’ve been told to play it safe, to stay in line – and to not dream too big, or else we may fail. Follow the secure path, and you’ll be handsomely rewarded. Not only will you be rewarded with the markers of success, we’ll take care of you.

Since those around you have also bought into this narrative, they’ll support you. You’ll fit in, and your life’s path will be etched in certainty.

And yet, so often –we find ourselves on someone else’s path, living someone else’s dream, to live up to the expectations (and approval) of others. We trade in our calling for our ceiling, our purpose for a paycheck, and our enthusiasm for exhaustion.

You wake up one day, only to realize you’re in the wrong movie wondering how the hell you got there.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life. The illusion of security has drained our life force. The calling you felt deep within you started as a wildfire and is now nothing but ashes. What once a 6-lane open highway of possibility has now become a cemetery where dreams go to die.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life

Reading the leap of your life book will challenge you to have an open mind, no matter if you consider yourself a brazen risk taker with an entrepreneurial mindset, or your definition of risk is passing someone on the right-hand side of your local freeway at a brisk 66 MPH.

The problem with our perception of risk is simple: we don’t take chances during the low stakes moments of life, so we’ll never take them during the high stakes moments. Which means every single day we’re wiring ourselves to not listen to what we know we have to do but are unwilling to face it.

And through that process, we miss facing ourselves.

Pre-Order The Leap Of Your Life and Claim Bonuses Now!

So there you have it: I wanted to share the introduction of the book with you, to see if it resonates and connects with you. Like I’ve said earlier: this is the book etched into my spirit, and was created because of two main reasons:

1. It’s the book I wish I had.

When I was waiting, wishing and hoping —I wish I had this book. I needed someone to help me give my dreams permission, otherwise I’d stay stuck and wake up with a sinking feeling of regret.

I felt alone, I felt fear…and there was a chance I’d come home with my tail between my legs. I hated where I lived and I was on the wrong trajectory. I wish I had this material to lean on and go all in on myself and my deepest desires.

2. It’s the book I wish I could give out when I have conversations with people.

These days, I’m constantly in conversations with clients, potential clients, people at live events and even at grocery stores or in the Uber coming home about their dreams and what’s in the way. As a trainer and speaker, I’m paid to notice patterns in human behavior and create solutions to those. The biggest pattern is simply the illusion that “someday” we’re going to figure it out.

But the truth is: every day you wait, you lose a fraction of your belief and spirit of making it happen —until it’s all gone.

To learn more about the core themes of The Leap Of Your life, watch the official trailer below:

If this message connects with you, this book can and will change your life. I don’t say that lightly, and I mean it —my life has been transformed by hearing the right message at the right time and making the bold decision in front of me.

During the pre-order phase, you can head to LeapOfYourLife.com to claim massive bonuses including workbooks, video trainings, and even coaching sessions and gifts from our incredible sponsors.

Once you place your order, email team@resistaverageacademy.com and we’ll send you the bonuses on the pre-order page!

Thank you for all of your support, there’s no way this comes to life without you.

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Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

Don’t start a podcast.

(There are 630,000 of them already.)

Don’t write a book.

(There are 1,052,803 published…every year.)

Don’t launch a business.

(There are 550,000 new entrepreneurs…monthly.)

Here’s the deal:

Don’t do any of these, unless of course —you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Because I’m here to tell you:

The odds are not stocked in your favor unless your idea of success is putting your entire net worth on Red 27 at the roulette table. In today’s post, I’m going to reveal a crucial concept (and centering question) to ensure you don’t wind up being another statistic.

Because if you’re doing what you’re doing for the right reasons, the worst thing you can do is start with a half-hearted approach. But if you do it right and play the long game, not only can you experience the deep fulfillment that comes with sharing your work with the world…

You can experience world class results and be part of the 5% who seek their goals to completion and never, ever look back wondering where they fell short.

tommy baker long gameAnyone Can Get Started, Few Can Endure

I remember standing in a crowd of people in Killington, VT at 4:30AM as thousands of athletes got prepared to attack the Spartan Ultra Beast.

As it sounds, this is the most intense race the Spartan brand puts on:

Around 30 miles of hiking the steepest double black mountains in Vermont for two days and one bone-chilling night. And yet, at the start of the race —the energy was palpable. It was also crowded, the music was blaring, and everyone felt amazing.

This is normal for what happens at the start of any endeavor:

Lots of enthusiasm and excitement, but the truth is:

When you look to your left, and you look to your right —two out of the three (including possibly you) won’t be there at the end of the race. This is true for the Spartan Beast (the pass rate at the time of my race was 15%) and mostly anything else in business and life. As Angela Duckworth, author of Grit says:

“Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.”

So, what does this mean to you?

Don’t waste all of your energy on starting —and don’t celebrate too much. Sure, there is power in making a decision and having the courage to get in the game…

But it’s only the start of what’s going to be a long, hilly and unpredictable path.

Because after you start, you quickly hit the place where 99% of people give up: the messy middle.

Rookies waste all of their energy on starting, while the professional plays the long game.

The Messy Middle Of The Long Game

It hit me at Mile 7 as I wiped another bead of sweat off my face and thought to myself:

This is going to be a grind.

Of course, I already knew this —you can’t have a 15% pass rate on any race and think it’s going to be a walk in the park. Especially knowing how curated the signups are: this isn’t your local 5K.

At Mile 7, the enthusiasm of the early morning fist-bumping EDM music was now a distant and forgotten memory:

I was officially in the messy middle.

Of course I’m using the race as a metaphor, but all of your endeavors will have the point in time you hit the messy middle.

This is where 99% of dreams go to die, and the realization is all the same:

This is going to be hard. Like really hard —like I-don’t-know-if-it’s-worth-it hard.

So, what’s the messy middle look like in different projects, businesses and endeavors?

It’s episode 29 of your podcast when you’re having the worst time trying to make another edit.

It’s 9,200 words in of your book when you’re finding yourself off course with no clarity in sight.

It’s 13 months into your business when you’ve had to fire your first employee —and cash flow is tight.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate. Because here is where the dabblers and quitters move on to the next idea, project and endeavor.

Only to have the cycle repeat itself.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate.

Most Success Stories Skip The Messy Middle

I love going to events, and hearing people’s stories of starting, encountering the messy middle —and then experiencing breakthrough. It’s one of the common themes on the podcast: leaning into the guests challenges, doubts and moments of deep questioning.

Except too often at the events I attend, people skip over most of what really matters: the messy middle. Of course, there’s great reason for this: in an 18 minute talk, you can’t possibly explain to the audience what’s really going to happen during the messy middle.

You do your best, of course —but the truth is much more complex than a polished talk could ever create.

And what this narrative does is simplify the messy middle and create an expectation in people’s hearts and minds that it won’t last too long.

But it’s not true, because most of your time in any endeavor will be spent in the thick of your own personal messy middle.

Starting is 5%, the messy middle is 90% and your breakthrough (or achievement) will be around 5%.

Let’s go back to how your fate will be decided.

The Messy Middle Is Hard, And Beautiful

So you may be thinking to yourself: why would I ever want to endure through the messy middle?

In a nutshell: this is where all the magic happens. Specifically, this is where you gain the confidence, skillset and belief that will transcend any “making it” moment on top of the mountaintop.

Most importantly: this is when you discover who you really are.

And trust me: there’s no amount of cold hard cash or shiny toys that will hold a candle to this feeling.

(And you don’t have to trust me, because the research is clear and obvious on what this does for your level of purpose and fulfillment.)

You’re also going to experience all types of breakthroughs during your messy middle: small wins, life-changing ones and everything in between.

So, how do you navigate this crucial aspect of your path? Let’s dig into the four tools designed to help you navigate this part of the path —and make sure you don’t get lost along the way.

Tool #1: Focus On Today’s Step

During the Spartan Beast, there were exhausted bodies everywhere. Men and Women sprawled out and ready to give up. For me, it was very easy to focus on them, and want to rest or slow down.

The first tool is to focus on what you can control today. Often, that’s the most important work in front of you —this step, and the next one.

Personally, as a writer —when I’m in the messy middle of a book, distraction is at its most tempting. It’s easy to focus on anything except the words. But these are the moments that make or break the work, and I focus on my 1,000 words for the day.

In your life, project or goal, what is the one thing you can focus on?

Tool #2: Keep Your North Star In Mind

The second tool is to remember where you’re headed —and why. This is the power of clarity: having a North Star you’re going after. I wrote about this in The 1% Rule: we all must have a North Star to guide us during the tough moments.

All we need are small reminders along the way of the what and the why. If you’ve done the work to know what these are, you’ll be in a great spot during your messy middle.

Every single day, remind yourself of your North Star for at least a few minutes. If you have time to scroll through Instagram, you have time do this.

Tool #3: Smile Through The Process

The third tool to help you navigate your goals and stay committed to the long game is to fall in love with the pursuit. I know this sounds like an Instagram quote, but it’s true:

Playing the long game means you’re going to have to love the process as much as the outcomes, checkpoints and breakthroughs.

Personally and with my clients, I work very hard to shift into a state of gratitude when things get really hard. I remind them that this is when most people quit, and every step they’re taking is cementing their belief, confidence and power.

Remember: there are people who would write you a blank check today to experience the challenges you’re going through. Never, ever forget the power of perspective and gratitude along as you play the long game.

Tool #4: Recharge and Refuel Along The Way

Lastly, it becomes impossible to endure during the long game if you’re not taking care of yourself. What I teach in my programs and coaching is to live at both ends of the spectrum: intense, focused work and plenty of open white space.

If you don’t recover, recharge and re-fuel along the way —you won’t last. We all need a radical self care routine: time for ourselves, being outside, walks, massages, reading a great book, meditating, floating and anything that re-centers us.

Often, this is the last stuff we do until it’s too late. Instead, ensure you are scheduling this work and making it a priority in your calendar.

It’s Time To Get Honest

Before you get started with anything, it’s time to get honest by asking:

Are you committed to this, or are you merely interested? Make no mistake: there is a vast chasm between these two, and 90% of people who start anything are not committed.

Because the average podcast lasts 6 episodes before they fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

The average book sells less than 300 copies during its entire lifetime.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Most businesses fail to ever get off the ground, and 90% fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Are you committed to the long game? I’d love to hear it.

The Leap Of Your Life Available For Pre-Order!

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There’s a bold decision in your life you’ve been putting off…and every day that passes by is another chance of waking up wondering what could have been.

If you’re wanting to get clear about your bold decision and ensure you don’t wake up with regret 1, 3, 5 or 10 years down the line, my new book The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is your trusted companion.

The book is available at all major retailers and you can pre-order to claim some amazing bonuses at the link above or go to Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

You’ll never be the same, and that’s a great thing.

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The Leap Of Your Life Book Trailer Premiere

By | Books, News
Reading Time: 4 minutes

The Leap Of Your Life Book Trailer Premiere

There’s a bold decision in your life you’ve been putting off —and every moment you wait, you start to lose a fraction of your belief in your capability to bring it to life.

Every second is an opportunity for fear to creep in ever so slightly and grab a stronghold of your deepest dreams and desires.

And deep down, you know it.

Today is an exciting day, where I’ll be revealing the trailer for my new book The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

The truth is:

This is the book I couldn’t not write, and I wrote it for you.

For the person out there who has bigger and bolder dreams, yet feels consumed by fear.

For the person out there who knows there’s something out there for them, yet hasn’t gotten clear.

For the person out there who has been waiting for the ‘perfect’ time, yet knows that doesn’t exist.

This is my most important work, and it’s for you.

Because here’s what I know to be true:

There is nothing worse than knowing you and I missed our shot.

We missed our calling.

We missed our purpose.

We missed the life we truly wanted.

The Leap Of Your Life officially comes out on April 2nd, but I’ve created some incredible bonuses if you help support the mission with a pre-order here.

Including special coaching and consulting, webinars, a group experience and free product from the best nutrition company in the game —it’s the least I could do.

If you’re ready, head over to LeapOfYourLife.com and grab yours now. All you need to do is place an order at one of the major retailers and email us the receipt at team@resistaverageacademy.com.

We’ll take care of the rest.

Without further ado, let’s check out the Book Trailer.

The Leap Of Your Life Book Trailer Premiere

As a writer, I write every single day. There is no time off —including birthdays, weekends and holidays. Last year alone, I tallied up over 550,000 words (and those are the ones I counted.)

In other words, I’m always writing.

But after The 1% Rule —I had planned on putting my attention and focus squarely on my coaching and consulting business where I help high performing entrepreneurs and executives tap into their purpose, power and profit.

But then a door opened, and I couldn’t say no.

(This is the power of not waiting to be discovered to get started.)

I was given an opportunity to write a new book, this time working hand in hand with one of the biggest publishers in the game.

There was only one problem.

(Actually, there was two.)

First, we didn’t have much time —and second, I had some ideas for a book but I hadn’t found something I could not write.

(This is what you want to aim for in any creative work: what you can’t not do.)

But I committed anyway, and went all in.

And the lesson I want to share with you is simple: there is no perfect time, or right moment —until you make it one.

Because the moment I chose to take a leap on this opportunity, the book I couldn’t write came to life deep within my heart and soul.

However, knowing what you and I must do is only step one —from there, we have to ensure we are saying “no” to every possible distraction.

And now it’s here, and it’s done…and I couldn’t be more excited for the people out there who will be inspired and motivated by this message.

Because the truth is: this is the message I needed to hear years ago when I was stuck, alone, frustrated knowing I was living a life that wasn’t for me.

The Leap of Your Life Pre-Order

(Drumroll.)

Here is the cover for my brand new book, The Leap Of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

tommy baker leap of your life

 

Again, this is the book I couldn’t not write, and a message that is deep within my soul.

Because if there’s anything I’ve learned over the years about living our best life and truly making our dreams come true:

It won’t happen sitting on the sidelines waiting, pondering and analyzing.

It happens when you and I choose to defy logic and reasoning —and make a bold decision.

Not for anyone else, but for the person in the mirror.

This is the beautiful, riveting story we’re all here to experience and share with others.

Because for a while, I was on the path of a life I didn’t want —and this is where most people find themselves:

Experiencing a daily, sinking feeling of regret, hopelessness and ‘what could have been.’

Every day, then —becomes a reminder of what hasn’t happened.

Screw that.

I wrote this to help you step into your power, release what’s been in the way —and create the life you know is out there for you.

Without waiting.
Without hoping.
Without wishing.

So you can do exactly what you’ve known you must do but somehow have let fear stop you cold and win.

Until now.

I put my mind, body and spirit into this work like I’ve never done before.

Most importantly, during the last half decade I’ve given myself permission to follow the principles inside like never before.

The book comes out on April 2nd, but is already available for pre-order on the major booksellers like Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Click here to check out all of the PRE-ORDER bonuses and secure your copy today and free gifts today!

What do you think of the cover and book trailer? I’d love to hear it!

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The Leap Of Your Life Book Cover Reveal

By | Books, News
Reading Time: 4 minutes

The Leap Of Your Life Book Cover Reveal

“Tommy, where have you been? I haven’t seen you much doing live videos and promoting your work.”

During the last 5 months of 2018, I’ve been in the trenches and gotten various questions like the above.

And I love it, because as Seth Godin asks:

When you’re gone, will they miss what you do?

Because of my consistency across the Resist Average Academy podcast, my VIP email newsletter, social media, Instagram and Facebook (and now YouTube, too):

People are used to seeing my face and hearing my voice.

(Don’t worry…sometimes I even get sick of it too.)

But today I’m going to reveal what I’ve been working on during the last 6 months, and also share a lesson with you on how to know it’s time to focus and double down.

You Can Do Anything…But You Can’t Do Everything

As a writer, I write every single day. There is no time off —including birthdays, weekends and holidays. Last year alone, I tallied up over 550,000 words (and those are the ones I counted.)

In other words, I’m always writing.

But after The 1% Rule —I had planned on putting my attention and focus squarely on my coaching and consulting business where I help high performing entrepreneurs and executives tap into their purpose, power and profit.

But then a door opened, and I couldn’t say no.

(This is the power of not waiting to be discovered to get started.)

I was given an opportunity to write a new book, this time working hand in hand with one of the biggest publishers in the game.

There was only one problem.

(Actually, there was two.)

First, we didn’t have much time —and second, I had some ideas for a book but I hadn’t found something I could not write.

(This is what you want to aim for in any creative work: what you can’t not do.)

But I committed anyway, and went all in.

And the lesson I want to share with you is simple: there is no perfect time, or right moment —until you make it one.

Because the moment I chose to take a leap on this opportunity, the book I couldn’t write came to life deep within my heart and soul.

However, knowing what you and I must do is only step one —from there, we have to ensure we are saying “no” to every possible distraction.

The Power Of Saying No…Even To Thousands Of Dollars

If you follow me at all, you realize focus, structure and discipline are big parts of my message. The reason is simple: this is so often in the way of most people’s deepest desires coming to life.

But when you say yes to a big project in your life and business —you have to say no to a ton of other opportunities.

Otherwise, the work suffers or may never get done.

For me, this meant saying no to all new incoming clients —people who were ready to pay me anywhere from $2,500 to $10,000 for coaching, masterminds and intensive experiences.

It wasn’t easy, but it was required.

This is the second lesson I wanted to share with you:

When you double down on something deeply important to you —you’ll have to say no often.

Okay, I know the blog title is about the cover reveal and now I’m rambling too much.

The Leap of Your Life Cover Reveal

(Drumroll.)

Here is the cover for my brand new book, The Leap Of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

tommy baker leap of your life

 

Again, this is the book I couldn’t not write, and a message that is deep within my soul.

Because if there’s anything I’ve learned over the years about living our best life and truly making our dreams come true:

It won’t happen sitting on the sidelines waiting, pondering and analyzing.

It happens when you and I choose to defy logic and reasoning —and make a bold decision.

Not for anyone else, but for the person in the mirror.

This is the beautiful, riveting story we’re all here to experience and share with others.

Because for a while, I was on the path of a life I didn’t want —and this is where most people find themselves:

Experiencing a daily, sinking feeling of regret, hopelessness and ‘what could have been.’

Every day, then —becomes a reminder of what hasn’t happened.

Screw that.

I wrote this to help you step into your power, release what’s been in the way —and create the life you know is out there for you.

Without waiting.
Without hoping.
Without wishing.

So you can do exactly what you’ve known you must do but somehow have let fear stop you cold and win.

Until now.

I put my mind, body and spirit into this work like I’ve never done before.

Most importantly, during the last half decade I’ve given myself permission to follow the principles inside like never before.

The book comes out on April 2nd, but is already available for pre-order on the major booksellers like Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

NOTE: It’s super early, so if you pre-order 5 or more copies, you’re not only going to get the books…but forward your receipt to our team, and I’ll do a Breakthrough Coaching Session with you. Normally, I charge $275 for these.)

What do you think of the cover? I’d love to hear it!

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