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The 5 Myths Of Clarity (Holding You Back)

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
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The 5 Myths Of Clarity (Holding You Back)

I found myself in yet another conversation with someone about what they’re being held back by, and they told me in desperation:

“Tommy…if I only knew what to doI’d be on fire and making all my dreams come true.”

And while it sounded great on paper, I told them the truth:

“That’s a brilliant excuse, one I’ve used personally —but it’s not true.”

In the personal development, growth, and seven-easy-steps-to-success world, I’m noticing an unhealthy obsession and reliance on clarity.

And I understand I speak of clarity all the time too —on the Resist Average Academy podcast, my books and endless social media posts.

But I’m tired of people using lack of clarity as an excuse to not get started and to sit on the sidelines.

I’ve compiled these myths into what I call the 5 Myths Of Clarity most people use as a convenient excuse to stay stuck…

….and not do the tough and messy work required to face themselves every day and move their life and business forward.

Don’t let these hold you back from creating incredible results this year and in 2019.

Let’s dig in and release them once and for all.

Myth 1: Clarity Is a Destination

The number one clarity myth is the belief that clarity is an end-all, be-all destination. This couldn’t be further from the truth, and yet it’s so common to believe.

Because believing this myth places tremendous pressure on achieving clarity —and people will spend years or decades searching for it.

They may spend time in Himalayan ashrams, or be on an endless loop of information binging their favorite personal development guru and still never find it.

Why?

Because clarity is a process and evolution based on your growth.

Your clarity and mine will change based on who we are today, tomorrow and during the rest of our experience in this game called life.

Release the pressure, and instead —fall in love with the daily pursuit of clarity. Understand clarity increases with capacity, meaning you’ll achieve more clarity as you grow and experience results in life.

(This is why the homeless person on the street doesn’t create vision boards —the clarity they need is how to get their next sandwich.)

Myth 2: Clarity Is Needed to Get Started

“Once I know what to do, I’ll start.”

“I need some more information and planning.”

“Next year once I have my certification, I’ll launch.”

While some clarity is important to start —most people think they need all the answers today. Again, this keeps countless people on the sidelines of life and business, waiting for clarity to get started.

This becomes an endless cycle of wanting to start, getting overwhelmed and then repeating the pattern over and over until you give up.

Here’s the deal: while some clarity is important to get started, it’s overrated.

Because when you execute, you’ll find much more clarity than you ever would thinking and pondering for 6 months.

Myth 3: You Need Clarity On The “How”

I wrote about this deeply in The 1% Rule, and I said the “how” is where dreams go to die.

So often, I’ll be in a client session or having a conversation with someone and I notice how inspired they get about their vision (the what) and their purpose behind doing it (the why.)

But then, I slowly see their body language start to change —and that’s when I know they’re thinking about the gap.

The gap, or the “how” —is connecting the dots between the vision and the messy middle.

But contrary to what most people believe, you don’t need to have clarity around the “how.”

Because when you’re crystal clear on the what, and the why —the how starts to reveal itself.

The only clarity you need is on your first few steps to get started. I’m literally talking about those first 3 action steps you can do this week, and the following 3 you can do the week after.

Everything else becomes a chance to be riddled with fear.

Myth 4: No Such Thing as Having Too Much Clarity

For some people, having too much clarity can actually create so much pressure —they do nothing.

I know, I know…it sounds weird and you’re probably thinking:

“What!? How can too much clarity be a bad thing?”

Let me explain with a personal example. Once every 6 months, I sit back and nerd out with a marker in hand —and put my entire business and life on a massive whiteboard.

(I do this with my clients, too.)

This past year when I completed it —I took a step back and thought to myself:

“Wow….this is amazing. But if you showed me this a year ago, I’d be overwhelmed.”

The lesson is simple: while clarity can be amazing, too much can send people into paralysis by analysis or complete and total shutdown.

Furthermore, as we mentioned above —this constant pursuit of clarity can become an avoidance mechanism for doing what really matters: getting started.

Myth 5: Clarity Guarantees Massive Results

Once you have clarity in life and business —you’re going to make it rain, Oprah’s going to be calling your cell phone and you’ll be on TV, right?

Good luck with that.

While clarity can be a powerful pre-cursor to massive results, it doesn’t guarantee anything.

The truth is lots of people have clarity that they’re on the path to lung cancer if they keep smoking and yet choose to do nothing.

It is my belief most people know what to do next, yet are riddled by fear and lack the courage to take the next step in their lives.

So, remember: clarity is a launchpad, but it’s what you do after that determines your (real) success.

Now, What?

So, there you have it —I wanted to share these with you in the hopes you don’t get stuck thinking you need all the clarity in the world.

These are some of the most common themes I see holding people back from actually having clarity, and most importantly:

Doing something with that clarity—what I call integration.

(This is why I created The Integration Experience audio training, which you can download for free on the front page of the site.)

As we wrap up another year, take the time and energy to get clear —but don’t let yourself fall into one of these myths and instead use your clarity to integrate every area of your life for 2019.

I’d love to hear from you on these myths of clarity in comments and if you have anything to add or share, post below and share please!

Ditch The Runway, It’s Time To Fly

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
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Ditch The Runway, It’s Time To Fly

There’s time we should all be spending on the runway of life: accumulating knowledge, wisdom, practice and repetition. This is where we put our preparation in: the pre-flight checklist, the security measures, the analysis of weather patterns.

And then we start to accelerate. This is where momentum grows, and we’re gathering all the tools we’ll need along our path.

But at some point, if we don’t take off —we will either be forced to abort our dreams or be involved in a fiery crash of epic proportions.

Neither is enticing, and yet how often do we spend our entire lives on the tarmac and runway of our dreams:

Chasing the next certification.
Chasing someone else’s permission.
Chasing a ‘someday’ moment in the future.
Chasing society’s approval to give us the nod to fly.

We’ve all been there, and it never seems to be enough. Once we cross off one checkpoint, we add another.

There has to be a better way —or else our dreams will stay grounded forever.

The Best Time To Start Was Yesterday

We’re on the runway, gaining speed, about to take off —and then we stop. We tell ourselves things like:

“I need more time to research.”
“I need another degree, or certification.”
“I’ll do it when life slows down and I have space.”

And so we start to believe these narratives —and we convince ourselves that one day we’ll make it happen.

Except we won’t, because one day and someday are illusions cut from the cloth of fear and procrastination.

And if we aren’t careful, we’ll live our entire lives on the runway.

We’ll watch other planes with more courage and tenacity take off on their dreams, while we stay safely cradled on the ground as the days, months and years pass by.

So the best time for you to start was yesterday.

Regardless of your current skill level —everything we set out to do will require more work, persistence and overcoming obstacles.

So you might as well start now.

Or else, you’ll get stuck in paralysis by analysis much like I did when picking up a new sport recently.

I Wanted All The Gear Before I Started

Recently, I moved into a new home in Arizona, gloriously tucked away in the mountains with unlimited access to some of the best trails around.

So I chose to pick up Mountain Biking —not really a big think in New York or CT, so I was completely new.

And yet, I found myself on the runway: finding a (used) bike, getting all the gear and spending countless hours studying how to get started.

But I wasn’t actually getting started.

Because I can read all the reviews on the latest gear, but everything will pale in comparison to getting out on the trail and having a split second near-collision with a cactus as I fall in a blaze of glory.

This is what most of us do with our dreams: we waste all our time and energy on preparation —when nothing could prepare us for being in the game.

And then we simply miss out on what really matters:

Experiencing the thrill and gift of life that only comes when we’re flying high above the clouds on our unique voyage:

We’re chasing our dreams, living our truths and taking the call to adventure we all deeply crave.

Not for anyone else, but for the Man or Woman in the mirror.

This unquenchable thrill for life can’t be found in blueprints, spreadsheets and P&L statements.

It happens when we take off, and never look back.

What Are You Waiting For?

Is there a time to harness skills, experience life and gain a level of competency?

Of course.

But way too often this becomes a crutch, a convenient excuse to keep our dreams grounded.

(And a brilliant one at that, because we don’t have face the raw and vulnerable feeling of putting ourselves out there.)

So, what are you waiting for?

Because I know one thing to be true:

Regret will gnaw at our spirits, until one day it has consumed every part of our lives.

You won’t regret giving it a shot.
You won’t regret taking a chance.
You won’t regret betting on you.

But you will regret staying grounded, living a life for other people who don’t have to pay the price of your decisions.

It’s time to pull that throttle back.

It’s time to fly.

Because on the other side of lifting off is a life you can’t imagine.

(NOTE: This metaphor is not my own, I simply expanded on it —thank you to the incredible Liz Gilbert.)

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

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Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

EP. 105 | LOVE YOUR LIFE AND VIBE HIGHER WITH TAYLOR STONE

Today’s a special one with Taylor Stone.

I get the pleasure of speaking to the most important person in my my life, my soul mate and fiancee, Taylor Stone from Inner Goddess Health.

Taylor is an incredible coach and expert in all things mind, body and spirit — helping women all over the world get in tune, increase their self confidence and live a life they can’t wait to wake up for.

She runs Inner Goddess Health and recently released a brand new podcast, VIBE HIGHER, which is out now on iTunes or anywhere else podcasts are found.

One of the reasons we’ve been able to cultivate a power couple relationship is about alignment, law of attraction, manifestation and being willing to make bold and radical decisions in the face of fear.

A former NFL Washington Redskins Cheerleader, Taylor’s story of overcoming anxiety, doubt and making changes in a prior relationship without a safety net will no doubt inspire you to take inventory of your own life.

 

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

During this episode with my amazing fiancee, you’ll discover:

  • Defining success as joy

  • The power of feeling complete when you’re alone

  • How to develop practices and rituals of presence

  • Why purposeful action doesn’t feel like hustle

  • How to incorporate play to feel more fulfilled

  • Tapping into the wisdom of intuition

  • Why your power can be trapped by poor health

  • How to be open to life’s breakthroughs at any moment

  • Building your foundation starts with your morning routine

  • How Taylor upended her entire life in one moment

  • The power of cutting out the noise for clarity in life

  • Why our purpose must be seen as a gift and why we need to act now

    …and so much more in a deep, connected and fun episode with my soul mate.

The answers will be found in the stillness.

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

Ep. 104 | Resources & More

Did you enjoy this episode? We’d love to hear from you. Tag Seth and I on Instagram with your number one lesson and we will come back to you and be in the running for a free book.

Ep. 104 | The 1% Rule Is Out On Audible!

It’s here! I’m excited to announce The 1% Rule is now out on Audible. You can grab your copy here.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

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Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

Depth.

That’s what to expect from this real conversation with my man Seth where we tackle some of the key reflections we’ve been experiencing in the realm of purpose, the pursuit of a craft, social media and embracing white space.

You’re in for a treat today, so take a moment because this one’s going to hit you.

We had the pleasure of doing this interview here in the Scottsdale studio, and it’s always a nice touch when we can go a little deeper.

Who’s Seth? He’s an internationally renowned keynote speaker and expert on workforce trends. He advises many of the world’s leading organizations on the key shifts happening around talent management, change and innovation, leadership, and the future of work.

Recently, he launched Luminate: a powerful content platform to help people navigate and live their best life.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

During this riveting and passionate episode, you’ll discover:

  • Defining joy and meaning with our work

  • Why everything starts with an intention

  • The intersection of your gifts with what the world needs

  • How to win half the battle with your habits

  • Understanding the power of surrender in life

  • How to overcome resistance in your routines

  • Navigating the gap from intention to creation

  • Why choosing to be a linchpin is a gamechanger

  • Are you practicing your craft or getting noticed?

  • The power of becoming obsessed with your craft

  • How to use comparison to yourself as leverage

  • Sharing our struggles managing the noise of life

  • The pressure of communication and relevance

  • The power of white space and silence in our lives

  • How to fall in love with your work in the dark

  • The power of putting in thousands of reps

Find your deepest passions, and where they intersect with the world’s needs.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

Ep. 104 | Resources & More

Did you enjoy this episode? We’d love to hear from you. Tag Seth and I on Instagram with your number one lesson and we will come back to you and be in the running for a free book.

Ep. 104 | The 1% Rule Is Out On Audible!

It’s here! I’m excited to announce The 1% Rule is now out on Audible. You can grab your copy here.

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The 1% Rule: How to Fall in Love with the Process and Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

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Reading Time: 5 minutes

The 1% Rule: How to Fall in Love with the Process and Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

the 1% ruleIt’s time.

The 1% Rule, my brand new book is officially out and I couldn’t be more excited to share this with you.

I wrote this for you:

For the person out there who is sick and tired of spinning their wheels.
For the person who has set big goals and visions and nothing ever changed.
For the person who feels overwhelmed with the noise and has lost confidence.

The honest truth is:

The 1% Rule is the book I wish I had.

Because I’ve been where you’ve been —and needed a way out.

Fast.

I Tried Everything, and Felt Stuck

For years, I’d immerse myself in all types of powerful content. I’d go to seminars. I’d spend big money I didn’t have to learn from the world’s best.

And while each of those experiences served me deeply —I’d come home after being drenched in inspiration and nothing would change.

Except my bank account was dented and I’d start to blame myself for not achieving the results I’d been promised.

The results I knew I could create.
The results I knew were within me.
The results I dreamed all day about.

Has this ever happened to you?

Here’s what I learned after all of these years:

Setting a grand, inspiring and emotional vision is only step one.

I know it sounds obvious —but none of these programs or seminars ever taught me how to reverse engineer the process of success.

In other words, I was never taught how to close the gap between where I am today and where I believed I could go.

So I created my own system, and The 1% Rule: How to Fall in Love with the Process and Achieve Your Wildest Dreams is the system.

The system to help you get your power back, and your belief that you can do it too —regardless of what has happened in the past.

Because here’s what I know: every time you and I set a goal, target or outcome and don’t move towards it —we start to lose a fraction of our belief in ourselves.

Until one day it’s all gone and we become jaded, scattered or simply give up and give in.

Not here, not you.

Now that the book is officially out on Amazon or Audible —I wanted to share the official introduction with you.

The 1% Rule

Our current system isn’t working.

Specifically, our system for setting goals and staying motivated enough to not only see them to completion, but consistently break through new levels of achievement and fulfillment.

Over the course of the last half decade, I’ve immersed myself in answering a few basic questions and have gone down the rabbit hole to explore these answers.

These questions are simple, yet incredibly complex at the same time.

They include:

Why do some people achieve massive success in everything they do, while others can’t get out of their own way?

What separates those who get excited and inspired for a season, a quarter, a month or a week, and those who are consistently on fire?

What are the core principles, mindsets, habits, and rituals of those who execute ruthlessly, and those who sit on the sidelines pondering?

This led me on a personal quest of self-discovery and growth as I traveled the world to learn from the best. It led me to invest hundreds of thousands of dollars in seminars, programs, courses, and mentors. It led me to launching my own content platform, podcast, and coaching and consulting business, and to writing my first book and leading my own intensive experiences.

Nothing was off limits. Instead of pursuing the answers to these questions in one context, I attacked them from all angles. Sometimes, it’d be in the realm of physical health and pushing my body to its limits. Another time it would be a deep spiritual retreat or a transformational experience. Many would be in the context of entrepreneurship and the principles of wealth production.

My thirst for this knowledge was unquenchable.

During this time, I started to uncover the answers to the questions I’d asked for so long. I also started to connect the dots between seemingly unrelated contexts. It all finally started to make sense.

Most importantly, I started to experience this shift in my own life, letting go of the old patterns of thinking and doing I’d created in order to step into new realities and experiences.

This led me to a powerful realization:

Nothing separates you and me from those whom we admire and look up to at the top of the mountain—we’re one and the same.

The only difference is the way they define and perceive success, their level of clarity around goal setting, and their associated behaviors and habits. I also realized there were crucial yet common myths we had to let go of in order to step into a place of powerful execution. Once we were able to adopt these new patterns, we too would become unstoppable.

These insights and realizations, discovered through a decade-long journey of both research and experiential training, led to the creation of the book you’re reading now.

My first book, UnResolution, was about dropping the mindset of waiting to achieve our goals, specifically the New Year’s myth. This new book is about a lifelong mindset that allows for incredible achievement and a deep-rooted fulfillment pertaining to the basic human desire of wanting to be better today than yesterday.

The 1% Rule was born from watching so many great people with amazing intentions never move the needle long enough to produce results. Ultimately, they would give up on their dreams, go back to their corporate offices, retreat on their health goals, disengage in their relationships, and cease all momentum.

Their dreams would become a distant memory as time passed. They’d stay stuck for years on end, feeling worse as each birthday passed until they ultimately gave up and decided they were destined to stay the same.

If this sounds familiar, don’t fret. No matter how out of touch you feel, there’s now a better way for you. The principles in this book are proven and tested on thousands of people from all life experiences and with varying desires, but with one core theme:

They want to close the gap between where they are today and where they envision they’re able to go.

If you want to do the same, this is your manifesto. If you’re here, I’ll assume this is not your first rodeo reading books like this—and I’m humbled. My mission is to give you a new perspective, release the immense pressure you’ve put on yourself, and give you a system you can use for the next year or decade, or for the rest of your life.

Your time is now because there is no such thing as “perfect timing.” If you’re reading this, it’s for a reason—and we have no time to waste.

The 1% Rule Book Trailer

Watch the official trailer of The 1% Rule below!

The 1% Rule Reviews

It’s been absolutely incredible to read the reviews about The 1% Rule, and I wanted to share some with you.

I am on a journey at the moment and am struggling to stay in track. This book helped me decide to take time out of my busy day this week and work on core outcomes, core processes and 1% processes. It inspired me to spend nearly two hours working on these things alone and I feel closer to bridging that gap between where I am at the moment and my original 6 month(now 4 month vision) because of it. Thank you Tommy Baker. – A Cahill

The best book I’ve read in a long time! The problem with most “self-help” books is that they contains a ton of great thoughts and theories without any actionable steps to take now. Not the case with this book. Tommy Baker does an excellent job at getting to the core of the problems, instilling motivation, and then giving action steps that can be taken right now to move forward and make progress. I highly recommend this book for anyone considering it. – Matt Olsen

This book delivers great tools both for personal development, business management and entrepreneurship. Very well written, focused and easy to understand, it is totally a “hands-on book” from the first chapter up to the last one. Don’t expect the ultra-fast get rich / get famous schemes. However, along the book there are many quick wins that, when used, will change your life immediately. – M Alcantara

Tommy Baker is my new favorite author and this is my new favorite book! I have implemented some of his suggestions (Pomodoro Technique), and see the difference in my daily routine already. I have no doubt that my business will look completely different in 90 Days. -Julie S

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