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The Leap Of Your Life: Decoding The Pillars with Tommy Baker

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The Leap Of Your Life: Decoding The Pillars with Tommy Baker

There’s a leap in your life you must take, but you’ve been waiting. Every day you put it off —fear starts to win a little more and talk you out of it. Until one day, it’s gone. There is no more enthusiasm. There is no more spark. Another desire, another dream has faded.

The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is my brand new book about making bold decisions and never looking back.

Because launch day is right around the corner, I wanted to create a special training video to help answer a few questions and deep dive into the material. These questions include:

Who is this book for and why should I care?

What makes the Leap of Your Life different?

What can I expect inside the pages of the Leap?

And here’s the deal: I get it. No one needs another book. But this book was created after an obsessive 7.5 year quest to discover the truth about how to create transformation in your life —and stop waiting.

The Leap Of Your Life: Training Video

During this 20 minute training video —I go deep into who this book is for, why it matters and distill some of the key principles and tactics to bring your leap to life.

This book was written for one reason and one reason only: to wake you up. 

Because we all need reminders, or else we slide into a life of mediocrity, stagnation and ultimately —a life we can’t wait to escape from, instead of a life we can’t wait to wake up for.

Make no mistake: you deserve to live a bold, inspiring and thriving life full of purpose, meaning, and adventure.

The Leap Of Your Life: Order Your Copy Now!

The Leap Of Your Life is officially out and available at all major retailers —and now is the best time to order so you can start living the life you truly want…not the one others want for you.

You can order the book at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indie Bound or Books-A-Million now.

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Are You Surviving, Comfortable or Thriving?

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Are You Surviving, Comfortable or Thriving?

After being in the trenches coaching thousands of people to get clear, focused and build momentum in their lives —I’ve noticed there are three possible stages you can find yourself in at any given moment: survival, comfort or thriving.

And in each of these stages, you’re going to have completely different mindsets, obstacles and ways of operating in your life. The problem, however —is each stage requires a specific prescription to breakthrough (or, if you’re thriving…to not lose your momentum.)

In this post, you’re going to discover which stage you’re currently in, what the key markers of being in it are from an internal and external view —and what you can do to make sure you break free.

Because you’re not meant to simply survive life, or be in a stage of comfort. You’re here to thrive and make sure you get to the end of this experience with a smile on your face —knowing you truly lived. Because when you’re thriving, life opens up for you and will provide a level of meaning and fulfillment that can’t be matched.

And you and I are designed to be in that place.

The Survival Stage

The markers of being in a survival stage are glaring: endless alarms, putting out fires and always in a frantic state of overwhelm. The feeling of burnout has become your new normal — and there never seems to be enough.

There’s never enough time, certainly not enough money or resources —and some of the dialogue happening here is short-sighted: “trying” to make it through the day, or at best, the current week so you can finally take a moment to exhale.

In survival, finances come and go and never last: there is always a drama designed to pull you back down. For example, you may have had tons of urgency to bring in money to make your monthly bills, when somehow you come across a larger sum of cash you didn’t previously have.

In survival, you’re attracting chaos: this is when an unexpected medical bill comes, or something seemingly “out of nowhere.”

Survival is exhausting, debilitating and makes you question yourself all the time. It leaves you scattered, some times broken and wondering if you’re ever going to make it out.

In survival, thinking about a big vision or setting targets and goals can actually do more harm than good: because you’re not in a state of being able to truly expand your mind. In one of my books, I call this the Homeless Paradox: you and I can pull up to our nearest street corner and tell someone in need the best wisdom on the planet —and it won’t strike a chord. Why? Because they’re thinking about their next sandwich and how they’re going to make it through the evening storm.

But it’s not all bad news: survival creates tremendous urgency (which comfort doesn’t) and can be a catalyst to get out once and for all.

survival, comfort, thrivingHow to Get Out of Survival

So, how do you get out? In survival mode, you must take a moment to examine the tremendous cost and pain being in this stage is causing you. Because often, it has become people’s identitythey don’t even feel comfortable in any other place, even if they say they want to get out of survival.

Step 1: Examine the cost of your life of being in survival: the exhaustion, stress and never feeling like it’s enough.

Step 2: Use Reverse Visualization (a technique I shared in the Leap Of Your Life) to amplify the future pain of regret to do something now.

Step 3: Set extremely short term goals (30 days or less) —and make incremental wins. Make them so small, yet important. This is how you’re going to build momentum.

Step 4: Train yourself away from scarcity thinking at least once a day. Practice habits of abundance, create a short morning routine —any space and time for “you” is helping you shift from scarcity to abundance. Stop saying you don’t have enough and remember: your circumstances are not who you are.

Because if you persist long enough with these steps, you’ll rise above the insanity of survival and come face to face with your next stage: the comfortable life.

Let’s examine what that looks and feels like.

The Comfortable Stage

“Things are…uh, good.”
“I’m fine. Everything is OK.”
“We should be grateful for what we have.”

Facepalm. This is often the language of a comfortable life: you’re no longer in a state of endless survival, and the 24/7 drama has been replaced by a feeling of comfort. Make no mistake, this is where around 75% of people are —and often wind up spending their entire lives in this place.

Now, if this is what you desire and what you authentically want: more power to you. Own it, and don’t waste your energy aspiring for more. But often, comfortable is not too comfortable. When we examine this stage a little closer —we see a ton of discomfort.

Specifically, in this stage —there’s something missing. The enthusiasm and life force for life has waned. Things seem dull, lacking color. There is nothing pulling you on the horizon, and if it does —it only lasts a little while. You’re finding yourself “stuck” but not knowing what to do. In this stage, lacking clarity, momentum and enthusiasm for something bigger and bolder is the status quo. You’re lacking a meaningful and purposeful challenge for your life.

The comfortable stage is by far the hardest to leave. Because you don’t have the buzzing alarms of survival —it’s hard to create urgency and focus for the next level. You’ve achieved a little bit —and because of this, you now have something to lose. Making bold decisions and taking on risks here seems irresponsible because of this. Especially because you’ve experienced survival —and never want to go back.

As I showed above with the language, “good”, “fine” and “OK” are markers of a comfortable life. Often, the technique of fake gratitude is used here: you talk yourself into saying you should be grateful, but deep down it doesn’t feel right. Something’s off and missing. In your quiet moments, you’re desperate for something new.

survival comfort thrivingHow to Get Out of Comfort

In my work with clients, this is often the stage they find themselves in. Long ago, I stopped working with clients in survival: I do deep and transformative work, and those in survival usually can’t grasp the concepts and mindsets required because of the endless urgency and lack of space.

If you’re in the comfortable stage, here’s how you can get out:

Step 1: Get radically honest and transparent about your life. Take inventory and allow the real feelings to come out.

Step 2: Examine the cost of not moving forward —and staying down this path. Again, the tool of Reverse Visualization is a great way to leverage future regret to make a decision right here, right now.

Step 3: Take on a mighty mission or challenge. In comfort, you’re able to think in bigger time horizons than survival: this is where setting aggressive, meaningful targets is crucial to leave your comfort zone. Find something that drives you…and scares you at the same time.

Step 4: Seek guidance and help from a mentor or coach. Again, leaving comfort is difficult —and going it alone may work for a little while…until it doesn’t. I’ve seen this play out many, may times: find a mentor, coach or program that won’t let you slide back into mediocrity and playing small.

Remember: comfort isn’t quite so comfortable.

Do you really want to spend your life in this stage —with no deeper purpose and meaning? Because the pain of untapped potential leads to destructive habits in your life.

The comfortable life loves to watch others play out their dreams on the television sets, the sports arenas and the Hollywood films. Because deep down, those in comfort know they’re meant for something bigger —but they’re stuck.

The next best thing is to watch someone else do it, but it never lasts. After the thrill of the football game is over —you’re left with yourself.

The Thriving Stage

The holy grail. The thriving stage is where you and I are designed to be: living this experience of life full tilt, full of incredible moments of meaning, purpose, inspiration and stepping into our highest selves.

Make no mistake: this is the life everyone deeply desires. It’s when you’re off the sidelines chasing impossible dreams…and making them real. It’s when you’re seeking the challenge — instead of it coming to find you. It’s when you push yourself every single day: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Thriving doesn’t mean things are easy —you don’t want things to be easy. You want to be challenged, to brush up against your emotional edges and create transformation. In this stage, you think bold and big: setting 10-year visions is easy, and you tap deep into the rituals of morning routines, creating space, working on your skills and finding new ways to maximize every moment.

Does being in thriving mean you let loose and do nothing? Not at all. Because in a thriving stage, your desire to grow is much bigger than your desire to stay comfortable. In a state of thriving, you’ve achieved a baseline of results but also know there’s plenty more in the tank.

survival comfort thrivingWhat Does Thriving Look and Feel Like?

When you’re thriving physically, no challenge is too big. You seek to push your body to new limits, in different ways —maybe it’s tackling a big race, the adventure of a mountain or even a deep yoga and spiritual practice.

When you’re thrving in your purpose and business, you’ve moved from selfish desires to selfless endeavors. Now, it’s not only about you: it’s about impact, service and touching lives. You’re pulled by what Tony Robbins calls a ‘magnificent obsession’ —a vivid picture of the future you can touch and feel.

When you’re thriving in your relationships, you’re constantly pouring into them. Your intimate relationship is connected and on fire, and people are always asking you for advice. You have a powerful social circle of inspired people who hold you to your greatest self. Most importantly, you have an incredible and inspired relationship with the person in the mirror.

Once you’ve experienced a state of thriving, you never want to retreat back to comfort —or worse, survival. But no matter where you find yourself today: we’ve all experienced thriving, which means you can get it back. When I surveyed my audience in a live webinar about what it feels like to thrive, they said:

Freedom, flow, presence, growth, fun, play, relax, abundance, energy, enthusiasm, intention and power.

You deserve to be in a state of thriving, but it’s not going to magically happen. It’s going to be a state of life of your choosing and creating. Every single day, you must start again. When you’re thriving, you love this challenge —it’s become who you are.

One Shift To Get To The Next Level

During this post, we went through the three common stages of life. This has been the best way for me to teach and help people identify where they currently find themselves…and what to do about it.

Make sure you identify which stage you’re in and at least one action step you can complete in the next 24 hours to create momentum towards the next stage. Or, if you’re thriving —to ensure you stay there and never retreat.

The Leap Of Your Life is Nearly Out!

If this post connected with you, then my brand new book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is definitely for you. This book is designed to get you clear on your next bold decision, stop putting your dreams off —and live in a state of thriving.

You can grab it now on Amazon or Barnes & Noble today and make sure you never, ever wake up with a sinking feeling of regret.

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7 Excuses Getting in the Way of Taking the Leap of Your Life

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7 Excuses Getting in the Way of Taking the Leap of Your Life

You had the insight, the breakthrough —the moment of undeniable clarity. In the precise moment of this emotional state, you have 100% certainty you must do it. There is no wavering. There is no space left for doubt, fear and uncertainty: it feels right to you, and you’re all in.

Whether your insight was around a career move, a tough conversation you must have, a bold adventure, finally hiring a mentor or coach —or another radical shift of your life:

You knew exactly what you had to do.

This is the moment of undeniable clarity way too many people hope, pray and wish for —and it often comes during the random, quiet moments of life.

You feel inspired, enthusiastic and capable of bringing it to life.

But then, something else happens: time starts to pass, your enthusiasm starts to fade —and you lose the original emotional state you were in. With time passing, so does your belief, clarity, and possibility in making it real.

Until one day, it’s gone.

In this post, I’m going to reveal 7 common excuses that get in the way of taking the leap of your life —the bold decision in front of you. Because if you don’t heed the call: you may never get it back.

And to me, the great tragedy of this is knowing we’re all one radical decision away from a life we can’t wait to wake up, feeling deeply on purpose, fulfilled and achieving the results we’ve only dreamed of.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #1: It’s not the right time.

“It’s not the right time, Tommy.”

I hear this all the time —from people who understand they’re going down the wrong path and are destined to wake up in a painful crisis if they stay on it. Or, people will come to me for coaching and use this as a convenient excuse to not invest in their dreams.

But guess what? Believing this means fear is winning: using time as a convenient way to let you off the hook and rob you of your dreams. Because it will never be the right time and you will never feel ready.

You’re not supposed to feel ready, that’s the entire point of making a bold decision into the unknown.

Remember: this is a radical decision, it’s not what you’re choosing to have for breakfast tomorrow morning. When you recognize fear is using the “right” time as an excuse —you can acknowledge her and take the next step anyway.

The right time is the moment you make a committed decision and go all in on the leap of your life.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #2: I don’t know the “how.”

You had a bold moment of clarity, a vision deep within your mind, body and spirit —and for a moment, you were all in. As time passed, you started to notice the distance in what we call “the gap”: your current reality versus your leap’s vision.

And then you focused on the “how” —and ceased all momentum. As I wrote in a previous book: the how is where dreams go to die. When people and clients tell me they don’t know the “how” —I simply say: you’re not supposed to.

Here’s the truth: if you knew every step of the how, it would tell me one of two things: one, you’re either playing small —or you’re on someone else’s path.

Instead, focus on the what (the leap of your life), the why (your emotional reason for making it real) and then taking the first step. As you go on, the how starts to reveal itself in magical ways.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #3: What if I fail?

The fear of failure will hold countless people back from taking the leap of their lives —and yet is a broken mindset rooted in scarcity. Because here’s the raw truth: the greatest failure is staying exactly where you are right now.

Please read that as many times as needed to strike the emotional chord inside of you that knows it’s time to make the change you’ve been putting off.

Because if you’re having a desire to change —you don’t want things to stay the same. This is what the leap of your life is all about: radical transformation. By using the fear of failure as an excuse —you automatically fail. You’ve already lost.

This is not a cliche, this is real life: the greatest risk is not taking one. The greatest failure is waking up 8 years down the line knowing you missed your shot. The biggest pain you’ll ever feel is the one of deep-rooted regret:

You had an opportunity to radically shift your life, to step into the boldest version of yourself —but you let a little fear win. You let your doubts win. This fear will keep you stuck time and time again and there’s only one way to overcome it: go all in and never look back.

Burn the boats, get rid of Plan B, C & D…and do it now.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #4: What will they think?

The below is an actual excerpt from the book, The Leap Of Your life around the topic of caring what others think in regards to your bold dreams:

Do you want the secret? No matter what you do in life, you’re going to be judged. You can stay stuck the rest of your life, and you’ll be judged. You can take the bold leap, and you’ll be judged.

If you speak up, you’ll be judged. If you stay quiet, you’ll be judged. It’s part of life, and it’s never going to go away. Once you recognize this, the stranglehold judgment has on you will begin to loosen.

However, there is one judgment that matters: it’s the judgment from the person looking back at you in the mirror every single day. That does carry weight because we have to live with ourselves every single day. We take ourselves everywhere. For the rest of our lives.

Here, if we avoid the leap — we must live with the fact that we’re going to judge ourselves the rest of our lives for not making the decision we knew was right. Yes, we can rationalize and compartmentalize it as much as we want. But it won’t go away.

So the question is: will you stay stuck in fear of other’s judging you —and ultimately judge and resent yourself?

Once you recognize this, you experience an inner freedom like never before.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #5: Things are good where I am

“But Tommy, I should be grateful I have a steady job and career —and I don’t want to lose it..things are good.”

This is what I call ‘fake’ gratitude: something in life is causing you pain, stress, and anxiety —and you know it must change. But we use a plastic, manufactured form of gratitude to keep us from getting radically honest.

When I work with clients, we delete “good”, “fine” and “okay” from their vocabulary. Because most times, good is not good. Fine isn’t really fine: it’s one step away from mediocre —and is proof of complacency at best and hopelessness for a better future at worst.

If you find yourself saying things are good, take a moment to get honest: are they really that good? Allow yourself to go deep into the real feelings you’re experiencing without judgment, blame or any excuses.

Because the way I see it: you’re not here for good. You’re here for riveting, on fire and powerful. You’re here to be amazed at all the possibility life has to offer.

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #6: Sure, you did it. But how can I?

“Yeah, of course they did it —they don’t have kids, they’re not struggling, they have all the skills they need to make their dreams come true.”

Here’s the truth: you and I will always find creative ways of propping other people up and making them extraordinary with talents, skills, and circumstances we tell ourselves we don’t have.

One of my mentors (and someone who was featured in the Leap of Your Life) —is Lisa Nichols, and she has a brilliant line about this:

“You want to make me extraordinary because it lets you off the hook.”

Because here’s what I know to be true: there are people who have done it with worse circumstances than you right now.

They’ve done it with less money, more stress —and a more troubled past. They’ve done it with zero skill, a crippling environment and a host of reasons not to do it.

But they did it anyway. Will you?

Leap Of Your Life Excuse #7: I don’t know what I want.

The last common excuse for not taking the leap of your life is when you tell yourself:

“I don’t know what I want.”

“I have no idea what my purpose is.”

“I need to discover what I really want to do next.”

And I’m here to tell you, based on the last 7 years of being in-the-trenches with people from all over the world and helping them create clarity and breakthroughs:

It’s not true.

Because if you were right here, in front of me —I could get you to a level of clarity where you know your next step and what you desire.

However, declaring this takes tremendous courage and vulnerability: something most of us are trained to run away from and do anything to avoid.

Am I convinced you know every step of your vision? No, not at all: as I mentioned earlier —you don’t need that level of clarity.

All you need to know is your next step, and a general sense of your North Star vision…and to give yourself permission to be honest.

It’s Your Time…Order the Leap Now!

Tommy baker the leap of your lifeI share these excuses with you for one reason: I used to believe all of these, too. And because I did: I woke up scattered, stuck and losing belief in myself. I found myself going down the wrong path, with the wrong people.

Until I woke up on a New Year’s Eve night and experienced a moment of knowing this was it.

If any of these connected with you —my brand new book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is for you.

Order now at Barnes & Noble, your local bookstore, or here on Amazon and ensure you step into the boldest version of yourself and stop waiting to make the move calling you.

Post any questions or feedback to comments!

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When Radical Change Requires Radical Change

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NOTE: I also did an audio version of this post, which you can listen to on the Resist Average Academy podcast about when radical change…requires radical change.

When Radical Change Requires Radical Change

There are moments in our lives where we have a clear fork in the road: we let go of who we’ve been, stepping into the unknown —or we sink back into the familiar, even if it’s painful.

Make no mistake: these are inflection points in our lives where everything can change. If we’re open, ready and willing. These are the moments where your head and heart are in a winner take all tug-of-war. You know what to do, and yet like a conniving snake —fear starts to take a stranglehold on every part of your body.

Every moment that passes from here on out is a missed opportunity of a radically different life. Deep down, you know this —and the pain of untapped potential starts to rot you from inside. You carry on the conventional path, the one someone else wanted for you, at the expense of the Man or Woman in the mirror.

Time passes, and you’ve become a cynic to your own dreams. You see the world as a dangerous, lackluster place. You have lost your life force. The dreams you experienced in 4K HD color are now black and white. There is no color, and apathy is the drug of choice.

You are the walking dead, the masses quietly living in desperation. You can’t stand the face in the mirror, let alone spend quiet time alone. Distraction is your method of numbness: watching others live their dreams on movie screens and fields of play connects to the spark you used to have. Until the dopamine runs out, and you’re left with yourself once again.

You wake up years down the line and feel the burden of an unlived life: bags under your eyes representing the shackles of regret, shoulders slumped after years of being pummelled by the inner critic inside of you. This is pain, this is your reality.

Or is it?

I’m here to tell you: it doesn’t have to be this way. There is another world out there for you, too. There is always a choice. There is always an option. And sometimes radical change in our lives requires…well, radical change.

It requires a blowtorch, not a candle.
It requires a chainsaw, not a scissor.
It requires going all in, not merely dabbling.

In this post, I’m going to deep dive into the moments where radical change is required….for radical results. I’m going to share four tools that have completely shifted my ability to make bold decisions, and do it now.

This is not for the faint of heart, and if you’re easily triggered or offended —not for you.

But I’m here for the truth, and I hope you are, too.

radical change requires radical change Tommy bakerThis Isn’t Working…What Now?

This isn’t working. You hear these voices during your morning commute, in the midst of a warm shower, or on the airplane as you level off at 37,000 feet —when you finally have some time to think.

Something has to change, you think to yourself. In the moment, it feels right. You’re not lacking clarity in this place. But then you stop yourself, asking:

But how am I going to do it?
It doesn’t feel like the right time.
I should be grateful for what I have.

And slowly, you begin to convince yourself. You talk yourself out of making a change, fear slowly takes over until you get back to your logical brian and distract yourself out of it.

These are whispers of wisdom, and not heeding their call is a dangerous game.

Because as time passes, the whispers grow in force —becoming louder as they raise the stakes, begging for your attention to do something. Anything. Time will pass, and what started as a whisper becomes a loud voice, a yell, a top-of-the-lungs moment:

This is crisis, this is the universe putting a stick in the middle of your life’s wheel.

But again, it doesn’t have to be this way. Let’s dig into a toolkit you can rely on during these moments to ensure you don’t miss them. And most importantly: to ensure you don’t wake up with regret and thinking what could have been.

 

Radical Change Tool #1: Reverse Visualization

If you’re here, you’ve likely heard of the practice of visualization: creating mental movies of the blissful future you’d like to experience. Whether landing a big business deal or finding the love of your life, visualization can be a powerful practice to shift your awareness towards what you desire.

But I’ve also been obsessed with a powerful tool I’ve taught to countless clients and in my seminars, programs and on the podcast: reverse visualization.

Here’s how it works: take your current circumstance, problem or situation in life that is causing you stress, anxiety and pain.

Hold it in tight, and then use your mental energy to visualize the following:

You wake up 5 or 10 years down the line and you didn’t do it. Whatever you know you need to change now, never happened. You’re in the same place but much, much worse. You’ve had to live with yourself during all these years knowing what to do —but not bringing it to life.

What does this look and feel like?

Don’t take this lightly: use visualization and the power of your mind to walk through every painstaking moment of your day, the hollow feeling of not doing it.

Because the truth is: if you don’t act, this is how you’re going to feel. If you amplify the painful future enough, today’s bold decision pales in comparison and you give yourself permission to go all in. What seemed “risky” now seems like a no brainer, because your future self is begging you to make it happen.

Tommy baker leap of your lifeRadical Change Tool #2: Quantum Decision Making

95% of people make decisions today based on who they’ve been —which means their re-affirming the past. This leads to predictable results and feeling stuck. Because our past isn’t who we are anymore, there is no option but to stay in a place of paralysis analysis and in a rut.

But what if there was a way to make decisions based on the future versions of ourselves —the person who has already created all of your visions and dreams?

Enter the second tool for radical change: quantum decision making. I’ve been teaching this one for a while now, too —and it has completely shifted my game.

The next time you’re faced with a decision, ask yourself a simple question:

What would the version of yourself who has accomplished your vision do in this exact circumstance?

Personally, I take myself ten years down the line and meet with my future self. Because to that version of myself, it’s a no-brainer. He almost laughs at my indecision. Because he’s stepped up to the plate so many times and put himself on the line, he tells me exactly what to do.

To make this powerful, you’re going to need to have clarity around where you’re headed. Don’t complicate it: you only need some clarity. When you use this tool, you’ll act courageously. Most importantly: you’ll begin to collapse the time for that future self to become who you are…today.

Radical Change Tool #3: Collapse Time for Urgency

There’s a story about entrepreneur Peter Thiel asking people about their 10 year goals. Once the person answers what they’re grand vision and goal is, he comes back to them with a simple question:

How can you make it happen in 6 months? Often —people react by saying it’s too impossible, they need the time, it’s going to take a lot of work, etc.

But here’s why I love this: it follows a universal principle called Parkinson’s Law. This law, in the context of what we’re talking about —is simple:

If you believe it’s going to take yourself ten years, it’s going to take ten years.

Groundbreaking, huh? But we recognize this in our daily lives: we give ourselves a deadline to accomplish a task a week from Monday, and on Sunday night we’re cranking everything out to finish just in time. In my coaching and programs, we set one year visions and then set 90 day targets to accomplish one year’s worth of results in the timeframe.

Think back to the last time you had a real, tangible deadline with negative consequences to not doing it. You made it happen, even when you thought it may be impossible.

Same goes for when you need to create radical change. Time is an illusion, and by forcing yourself to collapse time: you have no time for fear, procrastination, guessing or waiting. You’ve created high levels of urgency and accountability, and it has to be done.

Examples of Radical Change

The moment I went all in on radical change is the moment my entire life shifted. I don’t share the above out of guessing —I’ve used it on myself and countless clients. I’ve spoken about these concepts with billionaires and some of the world’s most successful creators.

But I wanted to share some of the moments I created radical change in life, to give you some context. Here are some examples during the last few years:

1. Cutting out every single person in my social circle and choosing to spend nearly all my time in solitude for one year.

RESULT: I read 100+ books in one year and went down a powerful path of self discovery, getting to know who I am —and feeling fulfilled.

2. Investing $25,000 in myself and my dreams when I had $900 in the account and hadn’t paid rent yet.

RESULT: I completely shifted what I felt possible for me, stepped into my power as a Man and business owner —and created my biggest one day revenue result in business ($50,000) six weeks after.

3. Throwing away my TV and listening to the same audio training 476 nights in a row.

RESULT: Similar to number one, I knew something needed to change. I was consuming powerful material, but nothing was happening. I went deep into a tape by my mentor, Dr. John Demartini —and never looked back.

4. Moving cross country with no plan, no blueprint, no guarantees —but knowing my old environment was eating me alive.

RESULT: The thrill of feeling alive, carving my own path and living in a place I absolutely love. The ability to access nature every day…and meeting my soul mate along the way.

5. Having a 15 second window to meet my soul mate and going all in.

RESULT: I had 15 seconds and every reason not to do it. But at the time, I’d been disappointed by relationships for so long —I chose to create radical change.

What’s Your Radical Change?

Make no mistake: radical change is powerful —and required.

As I said earlier, too often I talk to people who know they must make radical change…but make small, inconsequential decisions.

At the end of the day, the trajectory of our lives is based on hundreds of thousands of decisions we make —some massive, some medium and some that don’t seem like anything. Using the tools above, you’ll now be able to make bold decisions in line with the most powerful version of yourself.

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No more waiting. No more hoping. No more wishing.

Sometimes, there’s a bold leap you and I must take —a decision that radically changed our lives.

This is exactly what you’ll find in my brand new book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

Available now here, on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or your local bookstore. This is your guidebook to use fear as a compass, eradicate regret…and do it now.

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5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

By | Entrepreneurship, Lists
Reading Time: 5 minutes

These lessons were extracted from a conversation we had with Naveen Jain on the Resist Average Academy podcast, which you can access through the link above.

5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

There’s a certain weight that comes with the “b” in billionaire —and recently I had the pleasure of spending 40 minutes with one of them. Naveen Jain is a serial entrepreneur, moonshot thinker and all-around genius of creation. I first saw and met Naveen at Thrive, an annual event put on by Cole Hatter —and a few months later we hosted him on the Academy.

I wanted to share some of the key lessons I learned from this time with him because what I learned went above and beyond the words he said. During the conversation, he was enthusiastic, present and used empowering language. He spoke of solving the world’s most messy problems —including healthcare, our shrinking resources and even traveling to the moon and beyond.

There is no doubt this time spent with him opened my world. I recognized the places I’m limiting myself, and how the greatest thinkers of all time are obsessed with possibility and wonder. It reminded me to tap into my inner child —and to look up in a world where everyone looks down at digital devices.

Here are the 5 lessons I learned from billionaire Naveen Jain you can start applying to your life and business today.

Lesson 1: Energy Creates Value

“Naveen! Are you there?”

“Tommy, Tommy, I’m here! Ready”.

The first lesson I learned from Naveen was about raw enthusiasm and energy for life. Because here’s the truth: my platform is small, and Naveen has been featured on the biggest media outlets in the world. He has all the cash he needs and is one of the most successful entrepreneurs and visionaries on the planet.

And yet, here he is radiating enthusiasm for an interview he’s likely done over and over. Make no mistake: our energy and enthusiasm for our mission and life will dictate the level of value we’re able to create. Because, as I’ve said on the Resist Average Academy Podcast: big dreams require big energy.

Waking up to a mundane corporate gig to do the minimum work required doesn’t require a ton of energy. Aimlessly drifting through life doesn’t require much energy. But building a life around a mighty mission is going to require physical, mental and emotional bandwidth to endure long term.

ACTION STEP: What is your level of energy and enthusiasm for your current life and purpose, and what can you do to level it up?

 

Lesson 2: Never Lose Your Curiosity

Naveen told me a story about being raptured by the moon as a young child —knowing he wanted to go there. But the moon is only the first stop: his curiosity wants to take him to bigger and bolder places.

Curiosity, then, is the spark required to bring our vision to life. Naveen’s work all comes from being obsessively curious: about space, exploration, education, health care and much, much more. You and I don’t need to find our curiosity: it is our natural state. However, as we’ve grown up most of us have lost the unquenchable thirst of curiosity we used to have as other people told us to “get real”.

When this happens, we become less enthusiastic about our lives and we shun a part of ourselves that has always been with us. Often in interviews, people will ask me about finding their purpose. The place I start is simple: pull at the strings of what already makes you curious, and everything will change.

“The day you stop being intellectually curious is the day you die.”

ACTION STEP: What is one topic, interest or activity you used to be deeply curious about and lost?

 

Lesson 3: Billionaires Think Differently

The number one difference between someone like you and I and Naveen Jain is about one thing only: the way we see the world and think about it. Because this determines everything else.

What I learned from our riveting conversation was simply how differently he thinks —especially about challenges and adversity. Even someone who’s primed in positive psychology would struggle with the sheer optimism Naveen brings to the table. For example, he sees every industry crisis as a real-world opportunity to step in a deliver value. When someone tells him “no” —he truly believes he’s closer to a bolder yes.

When we’re looking to create results, we tend to focus on the external: tactics, mechanics and strategy. Instead, we should be focusing on the deep level thinking we’re bringing to the table: this will impact everything we do. And if it’s off, or small-minded —there’s no amount of tactics capable of overcoming this type of thinking.

For most people I coach and train in life and business, their biggest issue has nothing to do with knowledge and everything to do with the way they’re currently thinking about those mechanics. Once we create transformation in their thinking, everything changes.

“If we believe something is impossible, then it becomes impossible to achieve.”

ACTION STEP: A recent time you were thinking small was _____ and the results were _____. How could you have changed your thinking for a better result?

 

Lesson 4: Language Represents Belief

What if?
Imagine.
Possibility.

Early on during our conversation, I noticed the use of his language and how it always came from an empowering place. He must have said imagine 9 times in the first 10 minutes.

I’ve always been fascinated by language, as it pulls the curtains back on our deeply held beliefs and worldview. For example, in my programs and coaching —we specifically don’t use words like “try” “maybe” “I guess” or anything else which may be deemed disempowering or vague.

Here’s why: your spoken word is a creative declaration to the world around you. If you can’t own this inherent part of our reality —it represents a misalignment. A belief is not serving you, or you’re thinking you’re not capable.

You can tell very quickly if someone has confidence based on the language they’re using. As a student of NLP, I’ve recognized the importance of our language: the words we choose, the tone we inflect and body language. Collectively, these determine how we see the world and our place in it.

ACTION STEP: Examine your language for the next 24 hours and identify 3 words you can delete or shift.

 

Lesson 5: If They Don’t Call You Crazy, You’re Doing It Wrong

Have you ever had a bold idea, knowing it was right for you, got excited and told someone close to you —and they shot you down immediately?

We’ve all been there, and it’s why we must be incredibly careful about who we’re seeking feedback from. Because sometimes the people closest to us can shoot down our dreams the quickest. To me, the greatest tragedy is having a spark of enthusiasm over a creative idea, business or endeavor…only to watch it fade when declared to someone else.

This is where the last lesson learned from Naveen Jain comes in: if people don’t call you crazy, you’re doing it wrong. If you’re out there living your best life and pushing the throttle on growth, people will doubt you. If you’re shipping a message near and dear to your heart, the critics will come. Make no mistake, this is part of the game.

“Find something you’re willing to die for and live for it.”

ACTION STEP: Take inventory of your inner circle. Do they support and expand you or contract you?

 

5 Lessons Learned From Billionaire Naveen Jain

So, there you have it. A short conversation led to a complete perspective shift —and I wanted to share these lessons with you to ensure you apply them in your own life and business. If you’re here, it’s because you’re meant for something big and bold, and the pain of untapped potential is something you want no part of.

Which of these lessons connected with you? I’d love to hear it!

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How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

By | Advice, Masterclass, Writing
Reading Time: 10 minutes

NOTE: I did a Quick Hit episode on this topic, which I’ve linked above. The audio is a simpler version of the in-depth process I’m sharing below, but can be a great companion to listen to.

How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

Monday morning comes around —and there are typically two types of people out there:

95% of people wake up in a fog, scattered, and putting out fires. They have no clarity on where they’re going —they simply want to make it through the day as fast as they can, so they can come back, “relax” and/or lay on the couch, binge-watching Netflix.

(Not that there’s anything inherently wrong with Netflix…but distraction is usually a feedback mechanism for a lack of clarity and purpose.)

Then, there’s the 5% of people who wake up with intention —they’ve designed their day based on a broader desire or vision. Their actions, rituals, habits, and environments support where they’re headed. There’s a peace and calm, balanced with a deliberate focus to start their week.

Now, there’s no question who is more likely to create meaningful progress in their life and business between these two. But if you’re an entrepreneur, freelancer or work for yourself in some capacity —this becomes even more important.

One of my most prized rituals which I teach all of my clients and constantly share on the podcast, here on the blog or social media is simple: If you do it right, taking 45-60 minutes on a Sunday to reflect, course correct, commit and prepare can and will change your life.

In this post, I’ll share the exact process I use and teach —as well as tools and resources to help you do the same. Because if you do, you’ll create the clarity and momentum most people wish for.

And as you know, wishing is never a strategy for success. But first, let’s get clear on why this matters in the first place.

tommy baker change your lifeWhere Will You Be One Year From Today?

Barring some type of physical catastrophe in your life —you’ll be waking up in one year. And you’re either going to be in a radically different place than where you find yourself today…

Or most likely —you’re going to be exactly where you are now, but worse. If you’re in a career that isn’t working, you’ll be worse off. If you’re finding yourself lacking momentum, you’ll be even more stuck. If you’re not making the money you want in your entrepreneurial or freelancing gigs…your bank account is bound to look the same.

The truth is: success is quite predictable, and sometimes even boringly predictable —look at someone’s mindset, behaviors, and habits and you’ll get a clear picture of where they’re likely to end up. Sure, there are outliers. But I’m not going to bank my life on unicorns, even if they’re kinda cute.

But there’s also another possibility: you wake up, and you’ve seen tremendous progress over the last year. The little decisions you made to adopt a morning routine, get clear around your goals and invest in some accountability are now paying off.

Remember: this Sunday routine, like anything else —can seem insignificant in the moment. Because this Sunday, if you do it or you don’t, you likely won’t see monumental change. But if you take this practice and compound it over a full year, you can be living a radically different life. You could have finally achieved the momentum you wanted, made the extra $20,000 you dreamed of —launched the platform or written your first book.

Like I said earlier, during the thousands of hours I’ve spent in the trenches obsessing over peak performance, human behavior change and results —the Sunday ritual came up time and time again.

Now let’s explore exactly what you’ll be doing on Sundays to maximize your success and never look back.

tommy baker change your liifeStep 1: Reflection

When was the last time you pushed the pause button on the freight train of your life and asked some deep questions, such as:

Am I on the right path, and do I know where I’m going?

What is my level of excitement and enthusiasm for life?

Why am I doing this all for anyway —what’s my bigger why?

Now, here’s what I’ve known to be true: we all ask these questions, but rarely create the necessary container to answer them. Meaning: we may contemplate these riding high above the clouds at 37,000 feet, but then we check our phones or fall asleep.

We may have a moment after a workout where we tap into something deeper —and then start our workday. Put simply: because we live in a shallow, caffeinated, non-stop stimulus world —true reflection is rare.

So the first step of your Sunday Reflection protocol is all about reflection —and taking the time to check in with yourself by asking yourself the following questions:

What was your biggest win(s) of the last week and how did you make them happen?

The first part of the reflection process of Sunday Reflection is about one thing: celebrating your wins. Because too often, we either conveniently forget the places we won, or choose to focus on what isn’t working. I don’t care how challenging, hard and scattered the last week was: there are wins in there, and plenty of them. It’s not about the magnitude of the wins, this is about celebrating yourself.

Once you’ve identified at least three wins, take a moment to de-construct how you made that happen. Think of how’d you teach someone else the principles and tools you used to bring it to life.

For example:

My biggest win this week was making a decision on my next project —and completing the research phase.

Deconstruction:

How I made this win happen was by setting boundaries and taking focused action —even with a busy week, I created the time by planning and saying “no” to other opportunities.

Or, let’s use another example:

My biggest win this week was connecting with my significant other and kids with an amazing date night experience where we laughed and were all fully present.

Deconstruction:

How I made this happen and the lesson I’d teach others is: if you don’t schedule something in, it probably won’t happen. I’d noticed we hadn’t done a proper date night in months, because we were “busy.” By planning it out in advance, I made it happen and it was incredible.

By doing this, you’re not only putting your focus on what’s working (which as we stated earlier, is rare), but you’re teaching yourself how you made it happen. This re-wires your neural circuitry in real time and will help you replicate these results in the future. This is the path to self-mastery where you build on your successes time and time again.

Now, it’s time to move on to the second key question:

What was your biggest challenge(es) of the last week and what did you learn through them?

Once we’ve celebrated your wins and de-constructed how you brought them to life —it’s time to identify your biggest challenge. I usually keep this to the one big stressor or adversity experienced during the week.

Often, we don’t face our challenges and take the proper time to reflect on them —missing out on valuable lessons and growth. Often, the act of releasing our challenges on paper (or digitally, if you prefer) means they lose their emotional charge on us. In fact, research has proven

The same process applies to the celebration phase, but now you will identify the challenge and de-construct the lesson and perspective it provided.

For example:

My biggest challenge this past week was not securing new revenue or clients in my business and feeling financial scarcity and stress.

Lesson:

Don’t focus on what’s not working. Most of the week I kept checking client proposals, and there was nothing there. I felt depleted and lost my confidence by placing my attention in the wrong places. Because of this, I didn’t make any new proposals or finish the marketing plan.

Or, another example:

My biggest challenge this past week was only doing my morning ritual two out of the seven days. I felt stressed and the kids were sick —and I reverted back to old habits.

Lesson:

Simplify the routine when there’s less time, and/or wake up 20 minutes earlier. I was able to see the contrast of when I do the routine, and when I don’t. I need this “me” time.

Can you recognize the power of reflection after reading the above? This is how you supercharge your learning and use your wins and challenges as catalysts to faster growth.

Lastly, the key here is to completely own your win(s) regardless of their size and scope —and do the same for your challenges. But instead of judging yourself for the challenges, seek the lesson they taught you.

Because now you’re wiser for them and have the ability to make a new choice.

Step 2: Course Correction

The second step of how 60 minutes on a Sunday can change your life is about course correction. Because often what I’ve noticed is after we set our targets and goals —we rarely take time to ask some crucial questions:

Given where I am today, am I still on the right trajectory?

Am I behind, on or ahead of schedule with my targets?

What is something that is working that I can double down on, or something I must delete?

There are two parts to course correction. One, you must know where you’re going —personally, I break this up into my North Star vision (you can learn more about that here) and current quarterly targets based on the vision.

For example, if my goal was to bring in $100K of revenue in my business this quarter and I’m 45 days in and sitting at $25K —I may need to course correct to ensure I get where I’m going.

tommy baker leap of your lifeStep 3: New Commitments

Once we’ve done the first two steps, it’s time to look forward to the upcoming week —and create our new commitments. Notice the word choice here: this is not a hope, a wish or something you’re merely interested in:

This is a commitment, and there needs to be a powerful intention to bring this to life. The system I teach is based on doing this same process with countless mentors of mine —as well as leading my own programs.

Diving our lives into 4 areas, we ask a simple question:

What am I committed to this week in regards to my business and career?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my relationships and connection?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my physical vitality and health?
What am I committed to this week in regards to my spiritual practice and growth?

The key with these, as you’ve likely heard with most goal setting is to ensure it’s specific, and connected to your quarterly (and yearly) targets.

Here are some examples:

What am I committed to this week in regards to my business and career?

I am committed to reviewing our marketing and crafting the new plan.

I am committed to making 50 sales calls and follow-ups to potential clients.

I am committed to recording 3 podcast episodes and releasing one blog post.

Business is easy, so let’s show an example of the spiritual side of things (however you may define this):

I am committed to 10 minutes of daily meditation and reading 10 pages a day.

I am committed to one floating tank session (sensory deprivation).

I am committed to journaling every single evening about my wins of the day.

Once you’ve identified your commitments for each bucket of life, you should have a clear vision for the week. You know what you’re going to be creating, and this should fill up a decent chunk of your week. Because now, you’re part of the 5% who have clarity around their priorities, have identified specific behaviors in line with those —and have put pen to paper (and paper to the calendar, as we’ll do here in a moment).

Now it’s time for the next step: daily integration.

Step 4: Integration

The last step of this process is simple: integration. What I mean by integration is ensuring all the work you’ve done is going to turn into the real world, tangible behaviors.

The version of integration I teach and my clients use is ensuring all of the above goes into their weekly calendar. I know this is where most people stop reading, but what doesn’t get scheduled, doesn’t get done. At least not long term: and if you’ve never used a calendar, this will be painful.

But it’s also going to be worth it. Because when you prioritize every part of your life, you don’t have space for the clutter. You don’t have space, time or energy left for gossip, mindless information, useless meetings or idle time where you’re left anxious, scattered and stressed.

Here’s an example of mine:

Don’t get stressed: because within this calendar, I have plenty of time to recharge. The yellow block above in the afternoon is called afternoon white space: no one can schedule me in here, and I get to do what I please (benefit #111 of being an entrepreneur.)

What I do after I’ve done all of this is add the little things that aren’t priorities, but still have to be done: email stuff, social media, checking in with my team and other efforts.

How 60 Minutes on Sunday Can Change Your Life

Every single mentor I’ve ever learned from directly or from afar has created the space for reflection. They all create a ‘bookmark’ to their week —and it happens on Sundays.

Whether it was Robin Sharma, Brendon Burchard, Dr. John Demartini or countless others —this is a life-changing practice. While we covered a ton of ground here, what I’ve found to work best is spend the next 66 days (the time it takes to build your habit) with your Sunday Reflection using a specific system and then start to make it your own.

Below, I’ve listed some tools and resources that help me with my reflection, as well as some research I used to bring this post to life.

I’d love to hear how it goes in the comments or if you have any questions about how to maximize your time and harness the power of this Sunday practice.

Pre-Order The Leap Of Your Life!

tommy baker leap of your lifeIt’s time, it’s time…it’s time. There’s a bold decision you’ve been waiting to make —one that will change your life. Maybe it’s quitting the job that’s eating you up inside, asking him or her out, launching your own platform or taking the risk calling you.

But you’re waiting, and every day that passes is a missed opportunity.

My latest book, The Leap Of Your Life is designed to help you identify the bold decision, execute now and ensure you don’t wake up years down the line wondering what could have been.

Learn more here, or order on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or support your local independent bookstore.

 

60 Minutes Can Change Your Life Research and Notes

  • Journaling about stressful events: effects of cognitive processing and emotional expression. “This study indicates that journaling about a personally experienced stressful or traumatic event may facilitate positive growth from the event.”
  • Study focuses on strategies for achieving goals and resolutions, including the power of sharing your goals with others for a 70 percent increase in results.
  • Cal Newport Blog: Deep Habits: Plan Your Week in Advance. 
  • Brendon Burchard, High-Performance Planner. One of my favorite tools that has a simplified version of the above and I always do both.
  • The 1% Rule. In this book, I also write about the Sunday Reflection process, why it matters and how to connect all the dots to reserve engineer your success.
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How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

By | Books, Entrepreneurship, News
Reading Time: 9 minutes

How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

This is not working.

Waiting, hoping and wishing ‘someday’ it’s all going to happen for you. The reason I know it’s not working is simple: I’ve been exactly where you are, and it left me nowhere except: stuck, alone and frustrated. Now I am consistently in conversations with those who feel they same.

And yet, nothing changes —except for one crucial thing: they start to lose their belief in themselves of bringing their deepest desires to life.

Today’s post is an excerpt from my upcoming book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

The portion included is part of the introduction, and I couldn’t be more excited to share this with you. If you’re ready to pre-order and claim massive bonuses, head over to LeapOfYourLife.com and grab yours today. You can also simply head to Amazon or Barnes & Noble here.

I wrote this book for you. The person out there who hears the whispers come during the quiet pockets of life and knows there’s something greater for you. You know it’s in there, somewhere…but you’re stuck. And the Leap Of Your Life is designed to give you permission.

Because if you give yourself permission, you’ll never be the same.

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The Leap Of Your Life Introduction

What are you waiting for?

There’s a leap in your life you’ve been putting off, and it’s killing you. Maybe not literally, but it’s killing your spirit. It’s killing your belief, your enthusiasm and the thrill of this one experience we call life. It’s killing your energy, vitality and hope for the future. When those are gone, you might as well be the walking dead.

It’s draining your life force, and every day you put it off, you’re reminded of how it hasn’t happened for you yet. And now you’re questioning if it ever will.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror. They’re reflected in bank statements. They’re felt in your body language during time with the people you love. They’re wrapped on long exhales as you aim to keep it all together.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror.

But worst of all, they’re reflected in this tireless voice in the back of your head that won’t shut up, asking:

“Is this it? Is this all that’s meant for me?”

Now, does this mean I’m certain your life isn’t working? No, not at all. Our lives can be working, and we can still have a leap we know we must take. Sometimes, this can be the most precarious circumstance of all: we have everything we’ve been told we should want, yet something is still missing.

And I’m here to tell you what’s missing is the leap of your life. But before we get into it all, let’s define what a leap is.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Leap Of Your Life Ingredients

You may be wondering: what exactly constitutes a leap? You may be thinking it’s abandoning western life and moving to an ashram in the Himalayas, quitting your accounting gig, launching the new app or parachuting out of a perfectly good airplane at 15,000 feet.

While all of those sound like fun to me and could be leaps, they don’t have to be yours.

Sometimes, the leap we have to take seems inconsequential to others and yet leads to a bold moment of no return: reaching out to a recruiter with the hopes of transitioning out of our job, having the tough conversation with our partner, launching the side hustle or finally clicking record and spreading a message with the world.

What matters, then is not necessarily the magnitude of the leap. It’s simply that it matters to you, and includes the following:

You feel a pull. You can’t explain it, but you feel pulled towards your leap. Much like a magnetic charge, you can try to avoid it, but it comes back stronger than ever.

There’s a decision. Your leap involves a decision you’ve been putting off and will require you to make a bold one.

The stakes are high. Your leap There are real consequences to not making it. There’s also endless possibility by stepping into it.

There’s an element of risk. Your leap has degree of risk, and for now you’ve chosen to play it ‘safe’ at the expense of your own fulfillment.

Not doing it will hurt more than doing it. Lastly, even though you haven’t taken your leap yet – not doing so hurts more than any consequence or perceived failure of taking it.

So, again what are you waiting for?

Because if you’re here, I already know you’re waiting for something.

Every day you put it off, a part of you withers away, knowing your dreams are on hold as you attempt to live someone else’s life. (I use the word attempt deliberately, because no matter how hard we try, it’ll never quite pan out.)

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Playing It Safe Means a Lifetime of Regret

As we begin this adventure, I want you to treat it as such. I’m going to take a wild guess you’ve read books with similar themes, but you haven’t read this one. Finishing the leap of your life will drive you towards a decision, which won’t only be shared between you and me.

There are a few reasons why you may be here right now, and I’m going to tell you why you should stick around:

First, you feel a calling for something bolder and bigger for your life — and you believe it may be possible, but you’re finding yourself stuck.

Second, you know if you continue on the same path you’re on today, you’re going to look back and feel the sinking feeling of regret.

Third, you’re tired of playing everyone else’s game. For too long, you’ve done what others told you to do and ignored a part of you that knew without question what was right.

Lastly, there’s a voice whispering to you during the silent pockets of life slowly begging you to put yourself on the line and do it now.

This voice comes to you when the intensity of life has slowed down. When it can no longer be drowned out in noise, bills and an unrelenting breaking news cycle, it comes to you. Sometimes it whispers on those long car rides where you’re running on auto-pilot and have the ability to (truly) think.

During those early mornings right before the chaos of the inbox hits. Or when you’re in those in between moments on the airplane and the perspective of being at 37,000 feet invites some deeper questions.

As long as you fit one, two or all of those descriptions — you’ve come to the right place.

By the end of our time together, one of two things will happen:

You’ll think everything I said sounded nice, but you won’t make the commitment I’m daring you to make — so this may as well be a video game. Except there’s no fantasy lands, and I’m not nearly as entertaining.

Or, you’ll have the spark, the insight, the push required to create something so powerful, the current version of yourself can’t imagine it. You’ll be brought to your knees (except this time, in a is-this-really-happening way.)

You’ll finally take the Leap of Your Life and you’ll never be the same.

But I’ve Already Taken a Leap…Is This For Me?

You may be saying to yourself: but I’ve already taken the leap. You launched your business, you moved cross country, you took the big chance. This can’t be for you, right?

Wrong. The fastest way to slide back to mediocrity is to believe life and business are about one leap. The truth is: life and business are a series of leaps and micro leaps as you continue to expand on your journey. Most assume if they already did a leap, they’ll be better prepared for the next one, right?

What I’ve found is the opposite: with making bold choices in the past, they can feel just as stuck and in fear about their next leap. Often, those with something to lose are less likely to take a leap: taking a chance is easy when you don’t have much to lose, but what about when things are working (to a certain degree)?

In working with countless thought leaders, industry trailblazers, and entrepreneurs who have made bold decisions in the past, I’ve noticed they need a constant reminder and push towards their next leap.

Otherwise, they slide back to mediocrity, the passion and challenge they once had fizzles and what once felt like a riveting life – has now vanished and become mechanical.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Greatest Risk (Is Not Taking One)

Starting your own business is risky.

Moving cross country with no plan is risky.

Asking him or her out before you’re ready is risky.

Taking a bold chance on your dreams is risky.

Right?

But what if we’re wrong – what if the real risk is putting our dreams on hold, placing them under a box labeled ‘someday’?

We’ve been told to play it safe, to stay in line – and to not dream too big, or else we may fail. Follow the secure path, and you’ll be handsomely rewarded. Not only will you be rewarded with the markers of success, we’ll take care of you.

Since those around you have also bought into this narrative, they’ll support you. You’ll fit in, and your life’s path will be etched in certainty.

And yet, so often –we find ourselves on someone else’s path, living someone else’s dream, to live up to the expectations (and approval) of others. We trade in our calling for our ceiling, our purpose for a paycheck, and our enthusiasm for exhaustion.

You wake up one day, only to realize you’re in the wrong movie wondering how the hell you got there.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life. The illusion of security has drained our life force. The calling you felt deep within you started as a wildfire and is now nothing but ashes. What once a 6-lane open highway of possibility has now become a cemetery where dreams go to die.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life

Reading the leap of your life book will challenge you to have an open mind, no matter if you consider yourself a brazen risk taker with an entrepreneurial mindset, or your definition of risk is passing someone on the right-hand side of your local freeway at a brisk 66 MPH.

The problem with our perception of risk is simple: we don’t take chances during the low stakes moments of life, so we’ll never take them during the high stakes moments. Which means every single day we’re wiring ourselves to not listen to what we know we have to do but are unwilling to face it.

And through that process, we miss facing ourselves.

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So there you have it: I wanted to share the introduction of the book with you, to see if it resonates and connects with you. Like I’ve said earlier: this is the book etched into my spirit, and was created because of two main reasons:

1. It’s the book I wish I had.

When I was waiting, wishing and hoping —I wish I had this book. I needed someone to help me give my dreams permission, otherwise I’d stay stuck and wake up with a sinking feeling of regret.

I felt alone, I felt fear…and there was a chance I’d come home with my tail between my legs. I hated where I lived and I was on the wrong trajectory. I wish I had this material to lean on and go all in on myself and my deepest desires.

2. It’s the book I wish I could give out when I have conversations with people.

These days, I’m constantly in conversations with clients, potential clients, people at live events and even at grocery stores or in the Uber coming home about their dreams and what’s in the way. As a trainer and speaker, I’m paid to notice patterns in human behavior and create solutions to those. The biggest pattern is simply the illusion that “someday” we’re going to figure it out.

But the truth is: every day you wait, you lose a fraction of your belief and spirit of making it happen —until it’s all gone.

To learn more about the core themes of The Leap Of Your life, watch the official trailer below:

If this message connects with you, this book can and will change your life. I don’t say that lightly, and I mean it —my life has been transformed by hearing the right message at the right time and making the bold decision in front of me.

During the pre-order phase, you can head to LeapOfYourLife.com to claim massive bonuses including workbooks, video trainings, and even coaching sessions and gifts from our incredible sponsors.

Once you place your order, email team@resistaverageacademy.com and we’ll send you the bonuses on the pre-order page!

Thank you for all of your support, there’s no way this comes to life without you.

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Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

Don’t start a podcast.

(There are 630,000 of them already.)

Don’t write a book.

(There are 1,052,803 published…every year.)

Don’t launch a business.

(There are 550,000 new entrepreneurs…monthly.)

Here’s the deal:

Don’t do any of these, unless of course —you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Because I’m here to tell you:

The odds are not stocked in your favor unless your idea of success is putting your entire net worth on Red 27 at the roulette table. In today’s post, I’m going to reveal a crucial concept (and centering question) to ensure you don’t wind up being another statistic.

Because if you’re doing what you’re doing for the right reasons, the worst thing you can do is start with a half-hearted approach. But if you do it right and play the long game, not only can you experience the deep fulfillment that comes with sharing your work with the world…

You can experience world class results and be part of the 5% who seek their goals to completion and never, ever look back wondering where they fell short.

tommy baker long gameAnyone Can Get Started, Few Can Endure

I remember standing in a crowd of people in Killington, VT at 4:30AM as thousands of athletes got prepared to attack the Spartan Ultra Beast.

As it sounds, this is the most intense race the Spartan brand puts on:

Around 30 miles of hiking the steepest double black mountains in Vermont for two days and one bone-chilling night. And yet, at the start of the race —the energy was palpable. It was also crowded, the music was blaring, and everyone felt amazing.

This is normal for what happens at the start of any endeavor:

Lots of enthusiasm and excitement, but the truth is:

When you look to your left, and you look to your right —two out of the three (including possibly you) won’t be there at the end of the race. This is true for the Spartan Beast (the pass rate at the time of my race was 15%) and mostly anything else in business and life. As Angela Duckworth, author of Grit says:

“Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.”

So, what does this mean to you?

Don’t waste all of your energy on starting —and don’t celebrate too much. Sure, there is power in making a decision and having the courage to get in the game…

But it’s only the start of what’s going to be a long, hilly and unpredictable path.

Because after you start, you quickly hit the place where 99% of people give up: the messy middle.

Rookies waste all of their energy on starting, while the professional plays the long game.

The Messy Middle Of The Long Game

It hit me at Mile 7 as I wiped another bead of sweat off my face and thought to myself:

This is going to be a grind.

Of course, I already knew this —you can’t have a 15% pass rate on any race and think it’s going to be a walk in the park. Especially knowing how curated the signups are: this isn’t your local 5K.

At Mile 7, the enthusiasm of the early morning fist-bumping EDM music was now a distant and forgotten memory:

I was officially in the messy middle.

Of course I’m using the race as a metaphor, but all of your endeavors will have the point in time you hit the messy middle.

This is where 99% of dreams go to die, and the realization is all the same:

This is going to be hard. Like really hard —like I-don’t-know-if-it’s-worth-it hard.

So, what’s the messy middle look like in different projects, businesses and endeavors?

It’s episode 29 of your podcast when you’re having the worst time trying to make another edit.

It’s 9,200 words in of your book when you’re finding yourself off course with no clarity in sight.

It’s 13 months into your business when you’ve had to fire your first employee —and cash flow is tight.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate. Because here is where the dabblers and quitters move on to the next idea, project and endeavor.

Only to have the cycle repeat itself.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate.

Most Success Stories Skip The Messy Middle

I love going to events, and hearing people’s stories of starting, encountering the messy middle —and then experiencing breakthrough. It’s one of the common themes on the podcast: leaning into the guests challenges, doubts and moments of deep questioning.

Except too often at the events I attend, people skip over most of what really matters: the messy middle. Of course, there’s great reason for this: in an 18 minute talk, you can’t possibly explain to the audience what’s really going to happen during the messy middle.

You do your best, of course —but the truth is much more complex than a polished talk could ever create.

And what this narrative does is simplify the messy middle and create an expectation in people’s hearts and minds that it won’t last too long.

But it’s not true, because most of your time in any endeavor will be spent in the thick of your own personal messy middle.

Starting is 5%, the messy middle is 90% and your breakthrough (or achievement) will be around 5%.

Let’s go back to how your fate will be decided.

The Messy Middle Is Hard, And Beautiful

So you may be thinking to yourself: why would I ever want to endure through the messy middle?

In a nutshell: this is where all the magic happens. Specifically, this is where you gain the confidence, skillset and belief that will transcend any “making it” moment on top of the mountaintop.

Most importantly: this is when you discover who you really are.

And trust me: there’s no amount of cold hard cash or shiny toys that will hold a candle to this feeling.

(And you don’t have to trust me, because the research is clear and obvious on what this does for your level of purpose and fulfillment.)

You’re also going to experience all types of breakthroughs during your messy middle: small wins, life-changing ones and everything in between.

So, how do you navigate this crucial aspect of your path? Let’s dig into the four tools designed to help you navigate this part of the path —and make sure you don’t get lost along the way.

Tool #1: Focus On Today’s Step

During the Spartan Beast, there were exhausted bodies everywhere. Men and Women sprawled out and ready to give up. For me, it was very easy to focus on them, and want to rest or slow down.

The first tool is to focus on what you can control today. Often, that’s the most important work in front of you —this step, and the next one.

Personally, as a writer —when I’m in the messy middle of a book, distraction is at its most tempting. It’s easy to focus on anything except the words. But these are the moments that make or break the work, and I focus on my 1,000 words for the day.

In your life, project or goal, what is the one thing you can focus on?

Tool #2: Keep Your North Star In Mind

The second tool is to remember where you’re headed —and why. This is the power of clarity: having a North Star you’re going after. I wrote about this in The 1% Rule: we all must have a North Star to guide us during the tough moments.

All we need are small reminders along the way of the what and the why. If you’ve done the work to know what these are, you’ll be in a great spot during your messy middle.

Every single day, remind yourself of your North Star for at least a few minutes. If you have time to scroll through Instagram, you have time do this.

Tool #3: Smile Through The Process

The third tool to help you navigate your goals and stay committed to the long game is to fall in love with the pursuit. I know this sounds like an Instagram quote, but it’s true:

Playing the long game means you’re going to have to love the process as much as the outcomes, checkpoints and breakthroughs.

Personally and with my clients, I work very hard to shift into a state of gratitude when things get really hard. I remind them that this is when most people quit, and every step they’re taking is cementing their belief, confidence and power.

Remember: there are people who would write you a blank check today to experience the challenges you’re going through. Never, ever forget the power of perspective and gratitude along as you play the long game.

Tool #4: Recharge and Refuel Along The Way

Lastly, it becomes impossible to endure during the long game if you’re not taking care of yourself. What I teach in my programs and coaching is to live at both ends of the spectrum: intense, focused work and plenty of open white space.

If you don’t recover, recharge and re-fuel along the way —you won’t last. We all need a radical self care routine: time for ourselves, being outside, walks, massages, reading a great book, meditating, floating and anything that re-centers us.

Often, this is the last stuff we do until it’s too late. Instead, ensure you are scheduling this work and making it a priority in your calendar.

It’s Time To Get Honest

Before you get started with anything, it’s time to get honest by asking:

Are you committed to this, or are you merely interested? Make no mistake: there is a vast chasm between these two, and 90% of people who start anything are not committed.

Because the average podcast lasts 6 episodes before they fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

The average book sells less than 300 copies during its entire lifetime.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Most businesses fail to ever get off the ground, and 90% fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Are you committed to the long game? I’d love to hear it.

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There’s a bold decision in your life you’ve been putting off…and every day that passes by is another chance of waking up wondering what could have been.

If you’re wanting to get clear about your bold decision and ensure you don’t wake up with regret 1, 3, 5 or 10 years down the line, my new book The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is your trusted companion.

The book is available at all major retailers and you can pre-order to claim some amazing bonuses at the link above or go to Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

You’ll never be the same, and that’s a great thing.

The 5 Myths Of Clarity (Holding You Back)

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
Reading Time: 4 minutes

The 5 Myths Of Clarity (Holding You Back)

I found myself in yet another conversation with someone about what they’re being held back by, and they told me in desperation:

“Tommy…if I only knew what to doI’d be on fire and making all my dreams come true.”

And while it sounded great on paper, I told them the truth:

“That’s a brilliant excuse, one I’ve used personally —but it’s not true.”

In the personal development, growth, and seven-easy-steps-to-success world, I’m noticing an unhealthy obsession and reliance on clarity.

And I understand I speak of clarity all the time too —on the Resist Average Academy podcast, my books and endless social media posts.

But I’m tired of people using lack of clarity as an excuse to not get started and to sit on the sidelines.

I’ve compiled these myths into what I call the 5 Myths Of Clarity most people use as a convenient excuse to stay stuck…

….and not do the tough and messy work required to face themselves every day and move their life and business forward.

Don’t let these hold you back from creating incredible results this year and in 2019.

Let’s dig in and release them once and for all.

Myth 1: Clarity Is a Destination

The number one clarity myth is the belief that clarity is an end-all, be-all destination. This couldn’t be further from the truth, and yet it’s so common to believe.

Because believing this myth places tremendous pressure on achieving clarity —and people will spend years or decades searching for it.

They may spend time in Himalayan ashrams, or be on an endless loop of information binging their favorite personal development guru and still never find it.

Why?

Because clarity is a process and evolution based on your growth.

Your clarity and mine will change based on who we are today, tomorrow and during the rest of our experience in this game called life.

Release the pressure, and instead —fall in love with the daily pursuit of clarity. Understand clarity increases with capacity, meaning you’ll achieve more clarity as you grow and experience results in life.

(This is why the homeless person on the street doesn’t create vision boards —the clarity they need is how to get their next sandwich.)

Myth 2: Clarity Is Needed to Get Started

“Once I know what to do, I’ll start.”

“I need some more information and planning.”

“Next year once I have my certification, I’ll launch.”

While some clarity is important to start —most people think they need all the answers today. Again, this keeps countless people on the sidelines of life and business, waiting for clarity to get started.

This becomes an endless cycle of wanting to start, getting overwhelmed and then repeating the pattern over and over until you give up.

Here’s the deal: while some clarity is important to get started, it’s overrated.

Because when you execute, you’ll find much more clarity than you ever would thinking and pondering for 6 months.

Myth 3: You Need Clarity On The “How”

I wrote about this deeply in The 1% Rule, and I said the “how” is where dreams go to die.

So often, I’ll be in a client session or having a conversation with someone and I notice how inspired they get about their vision (the what) and their purpose behind doing it (the why.)

But then, I slowly see their body language start to change —and that’s when I know they’re thinking about the gap.

The gap, or the “how” —is connecting the dots between the vision and the messy middle.

But contrary to what most people believe, you don’t need to have clarity around the “how.”

Because when you’re crystal clear on the what, and the why —the how starts to reveal itself.

The only clarity you need is on your first few steps to get started. I’m literally talking about those first 3 action steps you can do this week, and the following 3 you can do the week after.

Everything else becomes a chance to be riddled with fear.

Myth 4: No Such Thing as Having Too Much Clarity

For some people, having too much clarity can actually create so much pressure —they do nothing.

I know, I know…it sounds weird and you’re probably thinking:

“What!? How can too much clarity be a bad thing?”

Let me explain with a personal example. Once every 6 months, I sit back and nerd out with a marker in hand —and put my entire business and life on a massive whiteboard.

(I do this with my clients, too.)

This past year when I completed it —I took a step back and thought to myself:

“Wow….this is amazing. But if you showed me this a year ago, I’d be overwhelmed.”

The lesson is simple: while clarity can be amazing, too much can send people into paralysis by analysis or complete and total shutdown.

Furthermore, as we mentioned above —this constant pursuit of clarity can become an avoidance mechanism for doing what really matters: getting started.

Myth 5: Clarity Guarantees Massive Results

Once you have clarity in life and business —you’re going to make it rain, Oprah’s going to be calling your cell phone and you’ll be on TV, right?

Good luck with that.

While clarity can be a powerful pre-cursor to massive results, it doesn’t guarantee anything.

The truth is lots of people have clarity that they’re on the path to lung cancer if they keep smoking and yet choose to do nothing.

It is my belief most people know what to do next, yet are riddled by fear and lack the courage to take the next step in their lives.

So, remember: clarity is a launchpad, but it’s what you do after that determines your (real) success.

Now, What?

So, there you have it —I wanted to share these with you in the hopes you don’t get stuck thinking you need all the clarity in the world.

These are some of the most common themes I see holding people back from actually having clarity, and most importantly:

Doing something with that clarity—what I call integration.

(This is why I created The Integration Experience audio training, which you can download for free on the front page of the site.)

As we wrap up another year, take the time and energy to get clear —but don’t let yourself fall into one of these myths and instead use your clarity to integrate every area of your life for 2019.

I’d love to hear from you on these myths of clarity in comments and if you have anything to add or share, post below and share please!

The Best Self Development, Business and Personal Growth Books of 2018

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship, Writing
Reading Time: 12 minutes

The Best Self Development, Business and Personal Growth Books of 2018

Ahhhhh, the nerd inside me loves nothing more than to shut off the world and go deep into books. If you’ve ever followed my Instagram, you’d know I’m a little obsessive.

Okay, totally obsessive is more like it. Here’s why:

The knowledge, wisdom and reflective aspect of reading has transformed my life — and Barnes and Noble is my version of a delicious slice of heaven.

At the end of every year, I like to reflect and think back to the books I read and how they impacted me. On any given year, I’ll read between 50-100 books —depending on what I’m working on and which season of my life and business I may be in.

In other words, I read quite a lot. By the way, remember the 10 pages a day rule: if you read ten pages every single day, you’ll read around 12-20 books per year.

Start small, and watch what happens.

According to the Washington Post, only 19 percent of adults read for leisure these days. One of the best parts about reading books is what you don’t do when you make the decision to read: less television, social media and distraction.

So, what were my favorite books of 2018? This is a personal list I choose to share with you, and is not based on anything except my level of learning, enjoyment and connection to the material. This is not a list about literary genius, and all of these works are non-fiction.

These are in no particular order, and few of these authors have been on the Academy podcast which I’ll link to under each section.

Let’s dive in, shall we?

21 Lessons For The 21st Century by Yuval Noah Harari

best books 2018What is happening in the world today?
Who can we trust for objective information?
Are things as bad as people say they are?

These are all questions I’ve asked, and been frustrated in trying to answer. Part of me wants to ignore it altogether, and the other part wants to dive deep and see how I can contribute to a solution. But awareness is always the first step.

Enter Professor Yuval Noah Harari —author of Sapiens and Homo Deus, two bestselling and thrilling books examining where we came from and where we’re going.

In 21 Lessons For The 21st Century, he deep dives into where we are today to paint a clear picture and how today’s choices will shift us going forward. I love this work, because it makes me think. It challenges me. Nothing is off the table here, including the dominance of Big Data, AI, Religion and the future of life and work.

If you’re someone who feels lost in finding objective sources of information and want at least some clarity about where we are (and how that may impact you) —don’t miss out on this one.

In a world divulged by irrelevant information, clarity is power – Yuval Noah Harari

READ THIS IF:

You want an objective view of what’s happening in today’s world and want to spend time thinking about the world’s greatest problems and opportunities.

The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi

best books 2018I heard Tucker Max speak glowingly of The Courage To Be Disliked on the James Altucher podcast, and I had to get it. The title alone grabbed me, and I realized this book had already been a sensation in Japan.

Told through a conversation between a young Man and a aged philosopher, it’s a refreshing format on the topics of change, transformation, courage, relationships and finding joy in life. It speaks about what gets in the way of our growth and how to navigate our lives.

The backbone of the book’s philosophy comes from Adlerian philosophy, which was something I’d never heard of. A colleague of Freud, Alfred Adler believed in developing oneself individually while balancing the holistic nature of a connected community.

Looking back, I’m realizing I need to read this again: it’s a deep read, but the way it’s told allows it to be a fast one. There’s a lot of wisdom within each sentence. It’s a philosophy mets self development type of book, and absolutely worth reading.

The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. When you have gained that courage, your interpersonal relationships will all at once change into things of lightness. – Ichiro Kishimi

READ THIS IF:

You’re looking for a refreshing take on change, courage and navigating the complexities of life.

12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson

best books 2018

Jordan Peterson has become an online sensation —and for many, can be quite polarizing. While I’m not here to discuss the politics around him, there is no doubt he is smart, studied and produces great work that makes you think.

12 rules For Life is a blend of philosophy, history and advice strikes a chord for its simplicity and great examples to drive the point home. Chapter titles include “Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping” and “Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World”.

What I love about his work is how simple it truly is. However, as humans…we tend to complicate everything. Peterson’s advice that changing the world starts with cleaning our room may seem obvious, but is it really? I don’t think so: self-reliance is always the first step in authentic leadership. So many people want to change the world, but what about starting with the person in the mirror?

Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care with yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination and articulate your being. – Jordan Peterson

READ THIS IF:

You want a blend of life advice with philosophy, history and all types of examples told in a meaningful way.

The Third Door by Alex Banayan

best books 2018I was standing there in Barnes and Noble (which is kind of my second home to be honest) when I saw the Third Door. And then I couldn’t put it down. Alex Banayan, who’s been on the show —has an incredible story of taking chances and putting himself on the line.

This allowed him to meet Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Steve Wozniak and countless others to distill the best advice on getting started with a career and a dream.

What caught me with this book was the powerful storytelling —combined with the raw enthusiasm jumping off the page. The premise is simple: in life, there are a few ways to operate:

One, we can do what everyone else does: waiting in line.
Two, we can be high rollers and VIP’s: we pay to skip the line.

But there’s also a third way: we can ditch the line altogether, reinvent the rules and play our own game to get what we want. This is the mindset of rebels, trailblazers and industry titans who chose to carve their own path, and The Third Door will inspire you to do the same.

If you actually want to make a difference in the world, if you want to live a life of inspiration, adventure, and wild success—you need to grab on to that exponential life—and hold on to it with all you’ve got. – Alex Banayan

READ THIS IF:

You’re wanting a page-turning adventure full of advice from some of the world’s best minds.

The Motivation Myth by Jeff Haden

best books 2018If we want to launch a business, we need more motivation — right?
If we want to make more money, we need more motivation — right?
If we want to thrive in relationships, we need more motivation — right?

Wrong. This myth holds so many people back as they “wait” to feel like doing something, and if they’re not motivated…

They quit. This is why I loved The Motivation Myth by Jeff Haden: we need more people who are dishing out the real advice around what it takes to succeed. Way too common is those who are relying on extrinsic motivation instead of choosing to create it every single day. Motivational videos are a dime a dozen, but can you execute on the days you want to stay in bed?

This core message is deeply in line with my work, and how I help people achieve results long term. Because if you think you always need motivation, you’ll miss out on the power of growing when you don’t feel like it.

The problem with waiting for motivation to strike is that it almost never comes with enough voltage to get you started. – Jeff Haden

READ THIS IF:

You’ve felt stuck relying on motivation to achieve your goals and dreams and need to get your power back.

Audience Of One by Srivinas Rao

best books 2018When we’re creating something —a message, our platform or any type of endeavor, we can get caught up in doing it for the wrong reasons. We can think we’re being selfless when we’re creating for others —but in Audience Of One, Srinivas Rao takes a different approach.

Using great stories of artists such as David Bowie, the book creates a compelling argument around creating for one person: ourselves. In other words, true creativity is found when we’re able to detach from others expectations and pour our heart and souls into the work.

One of the reasons I loved this book (along with his first one, How To Be Unmistakable) —the way the book is packaged and presented makes it an easy read.

The second half of the book acts like a “how to” on getting our creative work done in an ever distracted world. I was writing my next book when I read this and it helped me focus and re-center on what matters —and will do the same for you.

This includes great tips for focused work, using our environment and habits to shape our creativity and releasing the noise and pressure we so often put on ourselves.

We must learn to let go of our attachments and expectations if we’re going to derive satisfaction from our work and create art that we’re proud to put our signature on. – Srivinas Rao

READ THIS IF:

You’re feeling stuck creatively and spinning your wheels and/or can’t find the time to do the work you care about.

WILD Habits by Tara Mackey

best books 2018

Tara Mackey’s story is incredible: one of resilience, and overcoming adversity against all odds—including being put on 14 prescription drugs and choosing one day to quit.

Cold turkey.

Her podcast episode blew me away because of how she overcame a deeply troubling childhood to now inspire and empower women all over the world as a successful entrepreneur, author and CEO.

I’m always amazed at what people can create coming form having their back up against the wall. This is why I love bringing people on the Academy to dig into their stories, and show you it’s possible no matter what has happened.

Her second book, WILD Habits —is all about how to build this foundation for ourselves and step into who we really are. WILD stands for: willingness, intuition, love, and discipline.

In my coaching, I’ve found this acronym to be essential for not only achievement —but feeling inner freedom, peace and clarity. I especially love the inclusion of discipline which many people get wrong, to me it’s always been about not breaking promises to ourselves (and others.)

In short, your habits will determine the quality of your life, and if you and I can stack more powerful habits into our lives —the more likely we are to love our lives.

My habits used to get me in trouble, now my habits are building blocks that have shaped my life and helped me grow —responsible for every business achievement and my personal health and mental well being. – Tara Mackey

READ THIS IF:

You’re ready to get back to a place of deep alignment…and stop feeling stuck and like nothing is ever working.

The 1% Rule by Tommy Baker

best books 2018 tommy bakerWait, you’re going to promote your own book on this post!? Of course, because I believe in it. The 1% Rule was written for those who were tired of setting life-changing goals only to wake up a few weeks later with nothing to show for it but wasted enthusiasm.

Furthermore, I wanted to give people their power back. At the end of the day, the process is what makes you who you are, not the outcome. Any big outcome in life is momentary (and surprisingly anti-climatic.)

When you put something out into the world, you never know what’s going to happen. It’s been incredible to watch The 1% Rule impact so many people around the world and give them a blueprint to reverse engineer their success and believe in themselves and their dreams again.

When the what and the why are vivid, the how starts to reveal itself. – The 1% Rule

READ THIS IF:

You’re able to create a bold vision or goal(s) for your life —but lose all hope when you think of “HOW” to make those happen.

Atomic Habits by James Clear

When looking to change our behavior, we should stack a bunch of success habits on top of one another —right? Kind of. The problem with this approach is habit change takes time, and since our brains are wired for extreme efficiency —it becomes easy to revert back to normal.

best books 2018I consider Atomic Habits to be a more academic version of The 1% Rule, as we cover very similar topics. James Clear is a great writer and researcher who simplifies the complexities of behavioral change with topics such as making habits ridiculously easy, shifting your environment for success, and much more.

I loved the audio version of the book and finished it in a day. The book became a quick New York Times Bestseller, so that should tell you something.

What I love about it is the simplicity of say, tiny habits —why aiming to do 10 push-ups a day is better to create a fitness routine than starting CrossFit and doing 5 workouts a week.

You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. – James Clear

READ THIS IF:

You want to put most of your successful decisions on auto-pilot and finally stick to behaviors long term.

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

best books 2018One of the things I love doing is reading books intended for different target audiences. Why? Because I get to connect with other people who I seemingly have little in common with, and yet realize that’s not true at all.

This year, I’ve read more books intended for women than any other year: because I want to deepen my understanding of the unique challenges they go through, so I can do better too.

This includes how competitive women can be with one another, and feel isolated in their pursuits. Lori Harder flipped the script and in A Tribe Called Bliss, talks about why the old model isn’t working. It leaves women alone, frustrated and always in scarcity mode.

Recent research has shown the key to a successful marriage or partnership is each person has significant same-sex relationships they can lean on to share a safe space of trust and support. I’ve found this in my own life by surrounding myself with Men on similar paths.

No matter how much hope and validation you put on someone’s approval or a destination —those are not bliss. If bliss means getting things, permission, validation or reaching a destination, you’ll miss a lifetime full of it. – Lori Harder

READ THIS IF:

You’re feeling disconnected from having a support system or tribe and want to feel the power that comes from having a community of people who have your back.

This Is Marketing by Seth Godin

best books 2018Marketing. This vast world can be overwhelming, confusing and downright frightening —I know from experience of working with the biggest brands during my copywriting career. And if I’m being honest with you: I’m still trying to figure it all out.

Here’s the deal, though: marketing is the lifeblood of any business. You can be the best in the world —but if people don’t know about you, it’s going to be a matter of time until you’re forced to close up shop.

Enter Seth Godin, someone who has transformed my business life and view of marketing. His ideas, his thoughtful words and the way he challenges me to think deeper —are a complete gift. Classic books such as Tribes, Purple Cow and Linchpin are constantly on my must read lists.

This Is Marketing is another brilliant read, designed to empower you (instead of confuse you) to think bigger about your brand, product or service.

Marketers make change. We change people from one emotional state to another. We take people on a journey; we help them become the person they’ve dreamed of becoming, a little bit at a time. – Seth Godin

READ THIS IF:

You want to be empowered to understand marketing, influence and sharing your gifts with the world in an unconventional manner.

Living With The Monks by Jesse Itzler

best books 2018In a non-stop, microwavable, breaking news world —when do we ever stop? Everyone’s busy, you’ll rarely ask someone how they’re doing without them telling you about it. And yet, our personal satisfaction and connection seems to be at an all time low. Our obsession with smartphones means we’re connected externally, yet lacking something much deeper.

Enter Jesse Itzler, trailblazer, entrepreneur and full immersion author who felt burned out and chose to do something about it. But instead of taking a one day digital detox, he went to live with monks in upstate New York for two weeks. His writing is entertaining, fun and informative: it invites questions about our current routines and 24/7 connected culture.

I don’t know about you, but there are days I want to unplug. Living With The Monks becomes a trusted guide and reminder of what really matters —and how the world won’t end if you and I don’t check Instagram 47 times a day.

The power and temptations of the outside world are great. Train yourself from the distractions. They are the enemies of your goals. Learn to move past the distractions, and you will succeed. – Jesse Itzler

READ THIS IF:

You need a funny, riveting reminder of the power of unplugging —and know you need to create some space for yourself.

When by Daniel Pink

best books 2018Daniel Pink is one of my favorite authors on the topic of motivation and why we do what we do —and this is where When: The Scientific Secrets Of Perfect Timing comes in, his latest book.

Once I started reading, I couldn’t put it down: it breaks down why timing matters more than we think, and how to use this as leverage for our behavior.

For example, the book breaks down daily timing —when you and I should be doing our most important tasks. Pink’s example of your chances of parole being much, much higher in the morning, than say —before lunch is fascinating. For me personally, it was a reminder to not be so hard on myself and maximize my focused time (with ruthless boundaries.)

I have incredible energy to start my day and choose to use it wisely on things like focused work, writing and what I call big rocks in business. But around 2PM, I start to feel an intense dip —this book reminded me this is normal, and what to do during this time.

It also reminded me of the power of taking intentional breaks to re-charge, as opposed to say, checking email and Instagram, why naps are amazing for us and why niners (29, 39, 49) are more likely to make life changing decisions before a new decade.

Afternoons are the Bermuda Triangles of our days. Across many domains, the trough represents a danger zone for productivity, ethics, and health. – Daniel Pink

READ THIS IF:

You’re having trouble getting your most important work done and want to learn how to leverage timing for big results in life and business.

The Best Self Development, Business and Personal Growth Books of 2018

There’s something for everyone in here, and that’s the point: sometimes, we need a book to spark a creative insight —and sometimes we simply need to be woken up.

If you weren’t able to read a ton this year, don’t fret. Start in 2019 with 10 pages a day, and use Audible and audiobooks to help you learn while on the road.

I’d love to hear from you: which books impacted you the most in 2018?

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Written by Tommy Baker.
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