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How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

By | Books, Entrepreneurship, News
Reading Time: 9 minutes

How To Take The Leap Of Your Life

This is not working.

Waiting, hoping and wishing ‘someday’ it’s all going to happen for you. The reason I know it’s not working is simple: I’ve been exactly where you are, and it left me nowhere except: stuck, alone and frustrated. Now I am consistently in conversations with those who feel they same.

And yet, nothing changes —except for one crucial thing: they start to lose their belief in themselves of bringing their deepest desires to life.

Today’s post is an excerpt from my upcoming book, The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly.

The portion included is part of the introduction, and I couldn’t be more excited to share this with you. If you’re ready to pre-order and claim massive bonuses, head over to LeapOfYourLife.com and grab yours today. You can also simply head to Amazon or Barnes & Noble here.

I wrote this book for you. The person out there who hears the whispers come during the quiet pockets of life and knows there’s something greater for you. You know it’s in there, somewhere…but you’re stuck. And the Leap Of Your Life is designed to give you permission.

Because if you give yourself permission, you’ll never be the same.

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The Leap Of Your Life Introduction

What are you waiting for?

There’s a leap in your life you’ve been putting off, and it’s killing you. Maybe not literally, but it’s killing your spirit. It’s killing your belief, your enthusiasm and the thrill of this one experience we call life. It’s killing your energy, vitality and hope for the future. When those are gone, you might as well be the walking dead.

It’s draining your life force, and every day you put it off, you’re reminded of how it hasn’t happened for you yet. And now you’re questioning if it ever will.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror. They’re reflected in bank statements. They’re felt in your body language during time with the people you love. They’re wrapped on long exhales as you aim to keep it all together.

The consequences of not taking your leap are real, and they stare back at you every morning in the mirror.

But worst of all, they’re reflected in this tireless voice in the back of your head that won’t shut up, asking:

“Is this it? Is this all that’s meant for me?”

Now, does this mean I’m certain your life isn’t working? No, not at all. Our lives can be working, and we can still have a leap we know we must take. Sometimes, this can be the most precarious circumstance of all: we have everything we’ve been told we should want, yet something is still missing.

And I’m here to tell you what’s missing is the leap of your life. But before we get into it all, let’s define what a leap is.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Leap Of Your Life Ingredients

You may be wondering: what exactly constitutes a leap? You may be thinking it’s abandoning western life and moving to an ashram in the Himalayas, quitting your accounting gig, launching the new app or parachuting out of a perfectly good airplane at 15,000 feet.

While all of those sound like fun to me and could be leaps, they don’t have to be yours.

Sometimes, the leap we have to take seems inconsequential to others and yet leads to a bold moment of no return: reaching out to a recruiter with the hopes of transitioning out of our job, having the tough conversation with our partner, launching the side hustle or finally clicking record and spreading a message with the world.

What matters, then is not necessarily the magnitude of the leap. It’s simply that it matters to you, and includes the following:

You feel a pull. You can’t explain it, but you feel pulled towards your leap. Much like a magnetic charge, you can try to avoid it, but it comes back stronger than ever.

There’s a decision. Your leap involves a decision you’ve been putting off and will require you to make a bold one.

The stakes are high. Your leap There are real consequences to not making it. There’s also endless possibility by stepping into it.

There’s an element of risk. Your leap has degree of risk, and for now you’ve chosen to play it ‘safe’ at the expense of your own fulfillment.

Not doing it will hurt more than doing it. Lastly, even though you haven’t taken your leap yet – not doing so hurts more than any consequence or perceived failure of taking it.

So, again what are you waiting for?

Because if you’re here, I already know you’re waiting for something.

Every day you put it off, a part of you withers away, knowing your dreams are on hold as you attempt to live someone else’s life. (I use the word attempt deliberately, because no matter how hard we try, it’ll never quite pan out.)

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Playing It Safe Means a Lifetime of Regret

As we begin this adventure, I want you to treat it as such. I’m going to take a wild guess you’ve read books with similar themes, but you haven’t read this one. Finishing the leap of your life will drive you towards a decision, which won’t only be shared between you and me.

There are a few reasons why you may be here right now, and I’m going to tell you why you should stick around:

First, you feel a calling for something bolder and bigger for your life — and you believe it may be possible, but you’re finding yourself stuck.

Second, you know if you continue on the same path you’re on today, you’re going to look back and feel the sinking feeling of regret.

Third, you’re tired of playing everyone else’s game. For too long, you’ve done what others told you to do and ignored a part of you that knew without question what was right.

Lastly, there’s a voice whispering to you during the silent pockets of life slowly begging you to put yourself on the line and do it now.

This voice comes to you when the intensity of life has slowed down. When it can no longer be drowned out in noise, bills and an unrelenting breaking news cycle, it comes to you. Sometimes it whispers on those long car rides where you’re running on auto-pilot and have the ability to (truly) think.

During those early mornings right before the chaos of the inbox hits. Or when you’re in those in between moments on the airplane and the perspective of being at 37,000 feet invites some deeper questions.

As long as you fit one, two or all of those descriptions — you’ve come to the right place.

By the end of our time together, one of two things will happen:

You’ll think everything I said sounded nice, but you won’t make the commitment I’m daring you to make — so this may as well be a video game. Except there’s no fantasy lands, and I’m not nearly as entertaining.

Or, you’ll have the spark, the insight, the push required to create something so powerful, the current version of yourself can’t imagine it. You’ll be brought to your knees (except this time, in a is-this-really-happening way.)

You’ll finally take the Leap of Your Life and you’ll never be the same.

But I’ve Already Taken a Leap…Is This For Me?

You may be saying to yourself: but I’ve already taken the leap. You launched your business, you moved cross country, you took the big chance. This can’t be for you, right?

Wrong. The fastest way to slide back to mediocrity is to believe life and business are about one leap. The truth is: life and business are a series of leaps and micro leaps as you continue to expand on your journey. Most assume if they already did a leap, they’ll be better prepared for the next one, right?

What I’ve found is the opposite: with making bold choices in the past, they can feel just as stuck and in fear about their next leap. Often, those with something to lose are less likely to take a leap: taking a chance is easy when you don’t have much to lose, but what about when things are working (to a certain degree)?

In working with countless thought leaders, industry trailblazers, and entrepreneurs who have made bold decisions in the past, I’ve noticed they need a constant reminder and push towards their next leap.

Otherwise, they slide back to mediocrity, the passion and challenge they once had fizzles and what once felt like a riveting life – has now vanished and become mechanical.

leap of your life tommy bakerThe Greatest Risk (Is Not Taking One)

Starting your own business is risky.

Moving cross country with no plan is risky.

Asking him or her out before you’re ready is risky.

Taking a bold chance on your dreams is risky.

Right?

But what if we’re wrong – what if the real risk is putting our dreams on hold, placing them under a box labeled ‘someday’?

We’ve been told to play it safe, to stay in line – and to not dream too big, or else we may fail. Follow the secure path, and you’ll be handsomely rewarded. Not only will you be rewarded with the markers of success, we’ll take care of you.

Since those around you have also bought into this narrative, they’ll support you. You’ll fit in, and your life’s path will be etched in certainty.

And yet, so often –we find ourselves on someone else’s path, living someone else’s dream, to live up to the expectations (and approval) of others. We trade in our calling for our ceiling, our purpose for a paycheck, and our enthusiasm for exhaustion.

You wake up one day, only to realize you’re in the wrong movie wondering how the hell you got there.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life. The illusion of security has drained our life force. The calling you felt deep within you started as a wildfire and is now nothing but ashes. What once a 6-lane open highway of possibility has now become a cemetery where dreams go to die.

Our inability to tolerate even the smallest of risks, has led us to live an unfulfilled life

Reading the leap of your life book will challenge you to have an open mind, no matter if you consider yourself a brazen risk taker with an entrepreneurial mindset, or your definition of risk is passing someone on the right-hand side of your local freeway at a brisk 66 MPH.

The problem with our perception of risk is simple: we don’t take chances during the low stakes moments of life, so we’ll never take them during the high stakes moments. Which means every single day we’re wiring ourselves to not listen to what we know we have to do but are unwilling to face it.

And through that process, we miss facing ourselves.

Pre-Order The Leap Of Your Life and Claim Bonuses Now!

So there you have it: I wanted to share the introduction of the book with you, to see if it resonates and connects with you. Like I’ve said earlier: this is the book etched into my spirit, and was created because of two main reasons:

1. It’s the book I wish I had.

When I was waiting, wishing and hoping —I wish I had this book. I needed someone to help me give my dreams permission, otherwise I’d stay stuck and wake up with a sinking feeling of regret.

I felt alone, I felt fear…and there was a chance I’d come home with my tail between my legs. I hated where I lived and I was on the wrong trajectory. I wish I had this material to lean on and go all in on myself and my deepest desires.

2. It’s the book I wish I could give out when I have conversations with people.

These days, I’m constantly in conversations with clients, potential clients, people at live events and even at grocery stores or in the Uber coming home about their dreams and what’s in the way. As a trainer and speaker, I’m paid to notice patterns in human behavior and create solutions to those. The biggest pattern is simply the illusion that “someday” we’re going to figure it out.

But the truth is: every day you wait, you lose a fraction of your belief and spirit of making it happen —until it’s all gone.

To learn more about the core themes of The Leap Of Your life, watch the official trailer below:

If this message connects with you, this book can and will change your life. I don’t say that lightly, and I mean it —my life has been transformed by hearing the right message at the right time and making the bold decision in front of me.

During the pre-order phase, you can head to LeapOfYourLife.com to claim massive bonuses including workbooks, video trainings, and even coaching sessions and gifts from our incredible sponsors.

Once you place your order, email team@resistaverageacademy.com and we’ll send you the bonuses on the pre-order page!

Thank you for all of your support, there’s no way this comes to life without you.

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Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

By | Advice, Entrepreneurship
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Don’t Start (The Power Of Playing The Long Game)

Don’t start a podcast.

(There are 630,000 of them already.)

Don’t write a book.

(There are 1,052,803 published…every year.)

Don’t launch a business.

(There are 550,000 new entrepreneurs…monthly.)

Here’s the deal:

Don’t do any of these, unless of course —you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Because I’m here to tell you:

The odds are not stocked in your favor unless your idea of success is putting your entire net worth on Red 27 at the roulette table. In today’s post, I’m going to reveal a crucial concept (and centering question) to ensure you don’t wind up being another statistic.

Because if you’re doing what you’re doing for the right reasons, the worst thing you can do is start with a half-hearted approach. But if you do it right and play the long game, not only can you experience the deep fulfillment that comes with sharing your work with the world…

You can experience world class results and be part of the 5% who seek their goals to completion and never, ever look back wondering where they fell short.

tommy baker long gameAnyone Can Get Started, Few Can Endure

I remember standing in a crowd of people in Killington, VT at 4:30AM as thousands of athletes got prepared to attack the Spartan Ultra Beast.

As it sounds, this is the most intense race the Spartan brand puts on:

Around 30 miles of hiking the steepest double black mountains in Vermont for two days and one bone-chilling night. And yet, at the start of the race —the energy was palpable. It was also crowded, the music was blaring, and everyone felt amazing.

This is normal for what happens at the start of any endeavor:

Lots of enthusiasm and excitement, but the truth is:

When you look to your left, and you look to your right —two out of the three (including possibly you) won’t be there at the end of the race. This is true for the Spartan Beast (the pass rate at the time of my race was 15%) and mostly anything else in business and life. As Angela Duckworth, author of Grit says:

“Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.”

So, what does this mean to you?

Don’t waste all of your energy on starting —and don’t celebrate too much. Sure, there is power in making a decision and having the courage to get in the game…

But it’s only the start of what’s going to be a long, hilly and unpredictable path.

Because after you start, you quickly hit the place where 99% of people give up: the messy middle.

Rookies waste all of their energy on starting, while the professional plays the long game.

The Messy Middle Of The Long Game

It hit me at Mile 7 as I wiped another bead of sweat off my face and thought to myself:

This is going to be a grind.

Of course, I already knew this —you can’t have a 15% pass rate on any race and think it’s going to be a walk in the park. Especially knowing how curated the signups are: this isn’t your local 5K.

At Mile 7, the enthusiasm of the early morning fist-bumping EDM music was now a distant and forgotten memory:

I was officially in the messy middle.

Of course I’m using the race as a metaphor, but all of your endeavors will have the point in time you hit the messy middle.

This is where 99% of dreams go to die, and the realization is all the same:

This is going to be hard. Like really hard —like I-don’t-know-if-it’s-worth-it hard.

So, what’s the messy middle look like in different projects, businesses and endeavors?

It’s episode 29 of your podcast when you’re having the worst time trying to make another edit.

It’s 9,200 words in of your book when you’re finding yourself off course with no clarity in sight.

It’s 13 months into your business when you’ve had to fire your first employee —and cash flow is tight.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate. Because here is where the dabblers and quitters move on to the next idea, project and endeavor.

Only to have the cycle repeat itself.

This is the messy middle, and what you choose next will decide your fate.

Most Success Stories Skip The Messy Middle

I love going to events, and hearing people’s stories of starting, encountering the messy middle —and then experiencing breakthrough. It’s one of the common themes on the podcast: leaning into the guests challenges, doubts and moments of deep questioning.

Except too often at the events I attend, people skip over most of what really matters: the messy middle. Of course, there’s great reason for this: in an 18 minute talk, you can’t possibly explain to the audience what’s really going to happen during the messy middle.

You do your best, of course —but the truth is much more complex than a polished talk could ever create.

And what this narrative does is simplify the messy middle and create an expectation in people’s hearts and minds that it won’t last too long.

But it’s not true, because most of your time in any endeavor will be spent in the thick of your own personal messy middle.

Starting is 5%, the messy middle is 90% and your breakthrough (or achievement) will be around 5%.

Let’s go back to how your fate will be decided.

The Messy Middle Is Hard, And Beautiful

So you may be thinking to yourself: why would I ever want to endure through the messy middle?

In a nutshell: this is where all the magic happens. Specifically, this is where you gain the confidence, skillset and belief that will transcend any “making it” moment on top of the mountaintop.

Most importantly: this is when you discover who you really are.

And trust me: there’s no amount of cold hard cash or shiny toys that will hold a candle to this feeling.

(And you don’t have to trust me, because the research is clear and obvious on what this does for your level of purpose and fulfillment.)

You’re also going to experience all types of breakthroughs during your messy middle: small wins, life-changing ones and everything in between.

So, how do you navigate this crucial aspect of your path? Let’s dig into the four tools designed to help you navigate this part of the path —and make sure you don’t get lost along the way.

Tool #1: Focus On Today’s Step

During the Spartan Beast, there were exhausted bodies everywhere. Men and Women sprawled out and ready to give up. For me, it was very easy to focus on them, and want to rest or slow down.

The first tool is to focus on what you can control today. Often, that’s the most important work in front of you —this step, and the next one.

Personally, as a writer —when I’m in the messy middle of a book, distraction is at its most tempting. It’s easy to focus on anything except the words. But these are the moments that make or break the work, and I focus on my 1,000 words for the day.

In your life, project or goal, what is the one thing you can focus on?

Tool #2: Keep Your North Star In Mind

The second tool is to remember where you’re headed —and why. This is the power of clarity: having a North Star you’re going after. I wrote about this in The 1% Rule: we all must have a North Star to guide us during the tough moments.

All we need are small reminders along the way of the what and the why. If you’ve done the work to know what these are, you’ll be in a great spot during your messy middle.

Every single day, remind yourself of your North Star for at least a few minutes. If you have time to scroll through Instagram, you have time do this.

Tool #3: Smile Through The Process

The third tool to help you navigate your goals and stay committed to the long game is to fall in love with the pursuit. I know this sounds like an Instagram quote, but it’s true:

Playing the long game means you’re going to have to love the process as much as the outcomes, checkpoints and breakthroughs.

Personally and with my clients, I work very hard to shift into a state of gratitude when things get really hard. I remind them that this is when most people quit, and every step they’re taking is cementing their belief, confidence and power.

Remember: there are people who would write you a blank check today to experience the challenges you’re going through. Never, ever forget the power of perspective and gratitude along as you play the long game.

Tool #4: Recharge and Refuel Along The Way

Lastly, it becomes impossible to endure during the long game if you’re not taking care of yourself. What I teach in my programs and coaching is to live at both ends of the spectrum: intense, focused work and plenty of open white space.

If you don’t recover, recharge and re-fuel along the way —you won’t last. We all need a radical self care routine: time for ourselves, being outside, walks, massages, reading a great book, meditating, floating and anything that re-centers us.

Often, this is the last stuff we do until it’s too late. Instead, ensure you are scheduling this work and making it a priority in your calendar.

It’s Time To Get Honest

Before you get started with anything, it’s time to get honest by asking:

Are you committed to this, or are you merely interested? Make no mistake: there is a vast chasm between these two, and 90% of people who start anything are not committed.

Because the average podcast lasts 6 episodes before they fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

The average book sells less than 300 copies during its entire lifetime.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Most businesses fail to ever get off the ground, and 90% fold up shop.

(Don’t let this be you.)

Are you committed to the long game? I’d love to hear it.

The Leap Of Your Life Available For Pre-Order!

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There’s a bold decision in your life you’ve been putting off…and every day that passes by is another chance of waking up wondering what could have been.

If you’re wanting to get clear about your bold decision and ensure you don’t wake up with regret 1, 3, 5 or 10 years down the line, my new book The Leap of Your Life: How to Redefine Risk, Quit Waiting For ‘Someday,’ and Live Boldly is your trusted companion.

The book is available at all major retailers and you can pre-order to claim some amazing bonuses at the link above or go to Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

You’ll never be the same, and that’s a great thing.

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

By | Podcast
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Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

EP. 105 | LOVE YOUR LIFE AND VIBE HIGHER WITH TAYLOR STONE

Today’s a special one with Taylor Stone.

I get the pleasure of speaking to the most important person in my my life, my soul mate and fiancee, Taylor Stone from Inner Goddess Health.

Taylor is an incredible coach and expert in all things mind, body and spirit — helping women all over the world get in tune, increase their self confidence and live a life they can’t wait to wake up for.

She runs Inner Goddess Health and recently released a brand new podcast, VIBE HIGHER, which is out now on iTunes or anywhere else podcasts are found.

One of the reasons we’ve been able to cultivate a power couple relationship is about alignment, law of attraction, manifestation and being willing to make bold and radical decisions in the face of fear.

A former NFL Washington Redskins Cheerleader, Taylor’s story of overcoming anxiety, doubt and making changes in a prior relationship without a safety net will no doubt inspire you to take inventory of your own life.

 

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

During this episode with my amazing fiancee, you’ll discover:

  • Defining success as joy

  • The power of feeling complete when you’re alone

  • How to develop practices and rituals of presence

  • Why purposeful action doesn’t feel like hustle

  • How to incorporate play to feel more fulfilled

  • Tapping into the wisdom of intuition

  • Why your power can be trapped by poor health

  • How to be open to life’s breakthroughs at any moment

  • Building your foundation starts with your morning routine

  • How Taylor upended her entire life in one moment

  • The power of cutting out the noise for clarity in life

  • Why our purpose must be seen as a gift and why we need to act now

    …and so much more in a deep, connected and fun episode with my soul mate.

The answers will be found in the stillness.

Ep. 105 | Love Your Life and Vibe Higher with Taylor Stone

Ep. 104 | Resources & More

Did you enjoy this episode? We’d love to hear from you. Tag Seth and I on Instagram with your number one lesson and we will come back to you and be in the running for a free book.

Ep. 104 | The 1% Rule Is Out On Audible!

It’s here! I’m excited to announce The 1% Rule is now out on Audible. You can grab your copy here.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

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Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

Depth.

That’s what to expect from this real conversation with my man Seth where we tackle some of the key reflections we’ve been experiencing in the realm of purpose, the pursuit of a craft, social media and embracing white space.

You’re in for a treat today, so take a moment because this one’s going to hit you.

We had the pleasure of doing this interview here in the Scottsdale studio, and it’s always a nice touch when we can go a little deeper.

Who’s Seth? He’s an internationally renowned keynote speaker and expert on workforce trends. He advises many of the world’s leading organizations on the key shifts happening around talent management, change and innovation, leadership, and the future of work.

Recently, he launched Luminate: a powerful content platform to help people navigate and live their best life.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

During this riveting and passionate episode, you’ll discover:

  • Defining joy and meaning with our work

  • Why everything starts with an intention

  • The intersection of your gifts with what the world needs

  • How to win half the battle with your habits

  • Understanding the power of surrender in life

  • How to overcome resistance in your routines

  • Navigating the gap from intention to creation

  • Why choosing to be a linchpin is a gamechanger

  • Are you practicing your craft or getting noticed?

  • The power of becoming obsessed with your craft

  • How to use comparison to yourself as leverage

  • Sharing our struggles managing the noise of life

  • The pressure of communication and relevance

  • The power of white space and silence in our lives

  • How to fall in love with your work in the dark

  • The power of putting in thousands of reps

Find your deepest passions, and where they intersect with the world’s needs.

Ep. 104 | The Pursuit of Joyful Work with Seth Mattison

Ep. 104 | Resources & More

Did you enjoy this episode? We’d love to hear from you. Tag Seth and I on Instagram with your number one lesson and we will come back to you and be in the running for a free book.

Ep. 104 | The 1% Rule Is Out On Audible!

It’s here! I’m excited to announce The 1% Rule is now out on Audible. You can grab your copy here.

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